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Postnatal health

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Husband at midwife discharge appt

6 replies

crazymuseummumtobe · 19/02/2020 21:23

DS1 (17 days) and I have our midwife discharge appt tomorrow. I want my DH to be there, because I'm really worried about my mental state right now and want to talk to her about it - I don't feel I've bonded with baby, keep thinking about running away, bursting into tears, can't see how on earth I'm going to manage when DH goes back to work on Monday... I thought baby blues were supposed to be done well before now. Will the midwife think it's weird to have him there for this appt?

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Orangedaisy · 19/02/2020 21:24

Not at all. Explain you’re struggling and he’s supporting you and the midwife will be able to help you both. Midwife will be thrilled he’s there for you. All the best, this will get better.

loutypips · 19/02/2020 21:25

I don't think so, I'm pretty sure my ex was there for mine.
Does he know how you're feeling? Do you think you can open up with him there, or will he prompt you to tell the MW how you are feeling?

anascrecca · 19/02/2020 21:26

You could go in on your own initially and tell her why you want him in there, it won't be a problem but sometimes they need to ask if everything is ok with you on your own . Good luck- it's good that you are going to ask for the support you need x

Megan2018 · 19/02/2020 21:27

My husband was at mine as it was in our house and he was on paternity leave.
In your circumstances absolutely have him there to make sure you get the support you need.
Have you met your HV yet? They can also see both of you, they actually like to include partners.
You will get through this, how you feel is very common and you can and will feel better with support. Well done for being honest. So many aren’t.

happytoday73 · 19/02/2020 21:29

No she won't. She will be concerned about how youh are feeling but glad you have his support

Horehound · 19/02/2020 21:35

Op, baby blues do tend to pass quickly but I do remember feeling really scared and worried for when my husband went back to work. But try not to because it is not as bad as what you build it up to be. In fact after a month I remember when my husband had his days off and me being annoyed because he was interrupting me and little ones routine.

Hope your HV supports you and congratulations! X

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