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Forced Abortions

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bthnyxx · 17/02/2020 02:10

Hello Guys. So I know abortion is a hard subject for some people so I apologise!

When my daughter was 4 months old I got caught pregnant, the relationship I was in was very controlling so basically I had no say in what happened. I wanted to keep the baby but all my family were against it especially my dad and my partner(now ex).. so I felt like I had no option other than to get an abortion. I was living with my mum and dad and I didn't want to go against their wishes and have another baby.

Basically, I have never forget that day, I never will, i always think, what would the baby have looked like,would it of been a girl or boy.. I just feel like I lost a child! But I dont know if I'm being stupid? After I had the abortion my partner(now ex) said that I killed our baby. I was 6weeks pregnant when I had the abortion.

I just want to know if its okay for to still miss the baby. I will never forget the little life that was growing in me but I dont know if I'm being silly🤷‍♀️

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KittyTsui · 17/02/2020 03:04

Hi OP

I haven't experienced this myself, but you are not alone. I came across this story www.quora.com/What-is-your-criteria-for-divorcing-a-spouse on Quora which I bookmarked, as it moved me so much. Check out the answer from December 4.

So no, you are not being silly. This person is clearly haunted by what happened to them, and regrets the abortion - one they had no control over, and so say either - to this day.

So yeah, it is 100% OK to miss the baby, grieve what should have been. Stay strong.

ColdCottage · 17/02/2020 03:35

In so sorry this happened to you. It was not OK.

Glad you are free of your ex. Can you get some counselling?

blackcat86 · 17/02/2020 04:14

I'm sorry this happened to you. Abortion can be emotional at any time but more so if its not what you want. Have you had any counselling regarding the abortion or your family dynamics? Are you in contact with your family now?

GiveHerHellFromUs · 17/02/2020 04:33

OP I chose a termination when I was 17 and sometimes still think "you would've been x age now" or wonder what they'd have been like. I think it's normal. For you it was much worse because you didn't get that choice.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I agree that you should speak with a counsellor. X

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