To ask if you feel love and connection to your child every day?

[Sadmumma1]

I have a 2 1/2 year old girl and struggled for a long time with pnd and anxiety. When I felt better I could feel the love basically every day. I feel like now things are going downhill again and sometimes I look at her and feel very little. It drives me insanely sad. Do you still feel overwhelming love for your toddler similarly to when they were babies? Or has it changed for you? Thanks in advance to anyone who will take some time to respond - I am truly struggling with how I feel

I am sorry that you are struggling..I think PND can manifest for a long time afterwards.
I would say I feel things more strongly now my child is 2 and can chat etc. My heart swells up when he tries to sing to me or cuddles me. Obviously there are tough days with tantrums and endless food prep etc.

Hope you're ok x

I didn't have PND or anxiety.
Some days I'm chuffed to have DC in my life & other days I find them tedious & baffling & wonder what madness ever possessed me to become a mother.

I didn't always get along with my parents, either.

It sounds like you could addicted to that 'in love' feeling, OP, or (I hope not) worse: feeling guilty for any negative feelings. It's ok to not always adore the people we love. That's best the thing about love. You know you love them even when they are very very irritating.

Thanks ragged. I do get irritated or annoyed and I don’t mind it.. it’s more the kind of “meh” disconnected feeling I get at times, like if I come home from work, and she’s being all cute and lovely and I don’t feel much at all..

Anybody else? Really struggling with this xx

My friend was similar and had really bad PND when her dd was little. She never was able to close that gap as time went on. She had another baby ten years later and idolised the new baby. I always felt so sorry for her first child.

If you know your not well or getting depression again, go back to the doctors. Do everything you can to fix yourself - for both your sakes.

Also don’t beat your self up if you occasionally feel disconnected. I do when I’m run ragged or got a lot on. The last thing I want is kids climbing all over me trying to get my attention so I just fake it till I make it - as it’s not their fault. I’ve just given work up to be a stay at home with my youngest and I feel like I’ve just found her again as she always fit in with my work, dd1 plans, my plans and then shunted off to bed. I never did play groups or accepted invites to parties for her as we were too busy. So I’m feeling guilt about that and trying to make up.

Parents always feel guilt over something.

But if you feel like your going under go back to the GP

What what said for me too. 2.5 yo.

What do you mean EssentialHummus?

Thanks LouReid. Did your friend get help?