What has made you feel mum guilt?

[mrsmonkey333]

Hi everyone!

New to Mumsnet and I've had a few things on my mind recently and wanted to share and hear some of your stories too.
My little girl is 5 months and she is perfect 😍 and I just don't feel worthy of her. She is so happy and smiles at me all the time and I'm breastfeeding so we have a great bond get everything I do i feel like it's wrong or not good enough and I mean EVERYTHING.
I stay indoors I think oo i shouldhave gone out and given her fresh air... I go out and I think oo it's cold I should have kept her home in the warm.
Even the way I hold her everyone is so gentle with her yet I doing her over me shoulder carry her here there everywhere hardly have time to play with her like my family members do.
Just feeling like a sh*tty mum in general x

My sons low birth weight

I feel like I didn’t nourish him in my womb because I didn’t eat well. I can’t get over the guilt

@AmbitiouslyFit my son was born early and so tiny that the smallest clothes were too big. He has been in 18-24 month clothes since Christmas and is 17 months. I wasted a lot of time feeling guilty, don't stress about it.

@mrsmonkey333 you said yourself she is so happy, you're doing great!

2020nymph sadly mine is now 2 years and stayed on his very low percentile. Didn’t reallr make a recovery.

Where to start?!

DS1:

• severe reflux until he was 5 years old, only diagnosed as lactose intolerant when he was 3 (despite being with a gastro pediatrician since he was 9 months old)
• migraines (from me )
• very very stressed and anxious - a more concentrated version of the worrying done by me, my mum and my MIL (poor kid!)

DS2:

• left to his own devices too much because I'm dealing with DS1 and his crisis
• took me 6 months of him asking for glasses before getting him an appointment - I thought he wanted them to be cool (he was 4) and that he was complaining about headaches because DS1 gets attention from headaches....turns out to be short-sighted

Sorry, that probably didn't help you at all!

My son becoming really underweight and being hospitalised because my breast milk didn't have enough calories for him, supplemented with formula and his weight is still not were the doctors want it to be.

I've had to stop breastfeeding, it's for the best but I feel so incredibly guilty like I failed him.

Then I feel guilty for feeling like this

Melissa that's my mum guilt too! My little man lost tones of weight in first 5 days due to tongue tie, I asked them to check and they didn't, my nipples were pouring blood and he was starving, I still cried with guilt with every formula bottle I gave him. He's now three weeks old and 2.5 pound over his birth weight thanks to formula, my supply is still low but I get 2 or 3 feeds in him a day from me but still feel sick with guilt I can feed him myself, even though I can see him thriving!