I hate my body

[Deadkeni]

So I had a baby 6 months ago. I gained a lot of weight during the pregnancy as I was bed bound for most of it.
At first I didn't think my body looked too bad, but my baby is 6 months old now and I've got horrific cellulite on my legs, my breasts have just started. sagging, my stomach has sagged horribly and grown wider at the bottom like it's a saggy water balloon, I look like an old witch from the neck down. I'm only 30.
My vagina looks okay but is not tight anymore. I feel so disgusting I just cry and panic once the baby is asleep.
I don't know how to fix this, I can't find any help or information. Just stuff for brand new mums who just gave birth and it says that my body should be back to normal but it isn't and I can't handle it but I'm completely alone I don't know who I can talk to I don't have a midwife or supportive family.

I'm sure it's not as bad as you think, maybe it's the difference that seems stark to you.

I would suggest exercise. It will help tone and tighten your body as you loose any excess weight. And kegel exercises for down below.

Don't worry it's all fixable.

I was told by a professional it can take 18 months to get back to how you looked before. However, I disagree. Your body has performed a miracle, grew and birthed a baby. You will look different, I think it takes time to accept and embrace the new you.
I'm 18 months post partum, I am now a 14 on top due to bigger breasts (which I love) and I'm just getting down to a 12 on the bottom. When I came out of hospital I was a size 18. I haven't done anything differently, due to complications I can't do any extreme exercise, so I walk daily.
My son has reached the stage of needing eyes in my arse so I'm sure this has contributed to some weight loss.
My point is, as hard as it is, remember how amazing you are. Be grateful for your body and embrace who you are now. It absolutely gets better, and you definitely are not alone.

I feel the same OP. Post c section looking at the horrible belly fold you get from the operation that apparently no amount of exercise will help. Surgery is the only solution. Gutting.

No it's not all fixable @Bluntness10 . Some changes can't be exercised away...

Of course not all changes can be exercised away, however you can massively improve things by eating right and exercising. It is difficult to accept at first that your body has changed, but of course it has. It has performed a miracle. Please try not to focus on hating your body, try and focus on how incredible it is. If you love your body you will take better care of it than if you hate it. Remember baby is 6 months, that’s still such a short amount of time.

Your body has grown a baby. It had nurtured that little one and performed its job perfectly. You need to not be do hard on yourself.

Cellulite, even skinny size 6-8 people have it. (Google celebs with cellulite, I did this when I gained my pregnancy cellulite and it made me feel alot better. I don't know why but it did)

There are things you can do to help reduce the appearance. DONT buy a fad cream. It won't work. However, drink at least 2l of water a day. This will help. Also look into dry brushing.

As for your vagina being different, maybe try kegel exercises?

And for other weight loss and tone, just watch what you eat. Make healthy swaps, pasta for courgetti. Cut carbs out at tea time. Don't buy sweets/chocolate. If you don't buy it, you can't eat it.

You are however beautiful, you are an amazing mum and you shouldn't beat yourself up.

There is a way back from this. I remember seeing my post baby body in a full length mirror for the first time around 6 months PP. I was utterly horrifed and cried my eyes out. I dieted and slimmed back down quickly after that. My stomach still hung but then I started to exercise. I still have faded stretch marks but I had a skin treatment that seriously helped. My DD is now 7 and my body is better than it ever was before pregnancy. There is hope. Sod all the celebrities who seem to bounce back within a month.

Haha yes sod all celebrities who bounce back so fast, that was my only knowledge of post pregnancy bodies before I had a baby. Not helpful! Glad you feel so good about your body now that gives me a lot of hope.

Thanks to those who've understood and shared your stories and positivity. I feel a lot better about just trying to make the most of what I can, be it fixable or not and I'm going to exercise more and eat better and try to make it something positive. Moving forward is always better than standing still.

I don't understand kegel exercises! I got a kegel ball which I'm trying out to help and is going really well.
It's not like I was planning to date any time soon but I'd like to at least imagine one day it will be a possibility.

Thanks for all being so kind x

Listen what you're going through is normal. I felt like that too. If it's weight you're worrying about then all I can recommend is walks (if you can manage it) & making sure you're getting nutritious food. It will come off bit by bit. Don't rush yourself!

Also, maybe if you get a chance, go get your hair done, facials etc, something feel good. Be kind to yourself 💗💗. Remember, you've been through (what could be described as).. a car crash. You've carried a HUMAN inside of you. You're a legend 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💗💗💗💪🏻💪🏻 xx