Post baby vag

[Mumlife27]

I had my first baby 18 months ago and have been very loose ever since.

Before children I was tight around 1 finger now I’m loose around 4. I thought it would get better in time and it never did.

Sex is awful, I can’t feel much. I cry every day now that my sex life is over at 26.

Doctor said there is nothing wrong with me and do my kegels but they really don’t make a difference.

I looked online for surgery but couldn’t find anything. I really don’t know what to do anymore. I regret ever having a child and wonder why so many woman lie and say that vaginas ‘snap back’. My doctor said that nobody is ever the same after giving birth. If I knew this then I would have never had a child.

I’m sorry OP. I don’t have any medical advice I’m afraid but I totally agree that women are not told the risks of vaginal birth. Your doctor doesn’t sound helpful, could you get a second opinion?

I have had 3 doctor, 2 nurses and a gynaecologist check me out because I had a lot of aching. They all said nothing is wrong with me.

I’m so sorry to hear this, you deserve much better care!

After two big children, everything most definitely is back to the way it was previously. My hospital has specialist women’s physios available, which helps, for during pregnancy and after the birth. If you don’t have access it’s so worth seeing a private women’s physio, to actually check your pelvic floor.

Your sex life really is not over, it’s definitely not too late. Don’t be fobbed off!

I'd recommend seeing a women's health physiotherapist. Will be able to give you far more specific and expert advice. I had a mild prolapse after my second baby and thanks to my physio have fully recovered, and my vagina - and sex - feel completely normal again.

She checked I was doing kegels properly but also got me doing more core stability work as this is vital to properly supporting the pelvic floor muscles, which ultimately keep everything firm.

Feel free to message me if you're London baaed and want the details of my physio (she's wonderful).

Do you do lots of kegels?

I aim to do two or three sets a day, and do Pilates weekly for general core. I found the NHS squeezy app helpful to get me into a routine, now I just do it at various points when it occurs to me.

Would you notice the difference if you didn’t do them?