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I thought I was doing ok

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Frizzy1986 · 07/10/2019 18:24

Sorry this is long....
It's been 6 days since I had my ds and I find that suddenly everything is becoming overwhelming and I am feeling like I can't do this all over again. I'm worried about everything and finding it stressful and I'm really emotional about it all and feeling like a bad mum.

The birth didn't go to plan and was very fast, only just making it to the hospital on time. I had suffered a 3rd degree tear last time due to speed of birth and had been doing my best to avoid any further damage (hypnobirthing, pelvic floor etc)
The midwives said he came out nice and slowly and I'd done well so they werent expecting a bad tear, but again I've suffered a 3rd degree.
It meant surgery, an overnight stay in hospital away from dd (who is 5) and some pain and discomfort, but I felt like I was coping with it.

Since coming home, I haven't felt myself at all though. My stomach still feels tender (mainly after a feed), I'm all swollen and I find my chest gets tight, my bleeding is quite light and pink but with occasional red flows which are also light.
My ds is suffering from jaundice (which my dd suffered from and which led to phototherapy and an overnight hospital stay) and I'm worried the same will happen with ds as the experience was horrible last time.

I've told my midwife about my tight chest and she said to book an appointment with my gp. They don't have any appointments, but have booked me to see a nurse on Wed. Meanwhile, I'm worried that there is something seriously wrong with me along with the occasional red blood.

I've also said about the jaundice and she is coming back tomorrow to see how he is doing. It doesn't look like it's getting better even though I am doing everything I can. Making sure I wake him to feed, putting him by the window, it just feels like I'm waiting for the inevitable and the pressure to get him better is immense.

Dh goes back to work on Wednesday and I just don't know how I can cope. I don't feel like me at all. I can't do anything other than sit around the house and I feel useless and like I'm not being a good mum at all.

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MalSundance · 08/10/2019 11:07

It’s still very early days, your body has been through a huge ordeal not to mention the hormones. Feeling absolutely rubbish right now makes total sense.

You have done and are doing absolutely everything you can for your baby. The feelings will pass, be compassionate towards yourself. Sitting about the house cuddling a newborn is all you should be expecting of yourself at the moment, you just had surgery. Be kind to yourself mama, you’ve got this.

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