Is this normal?

[sirmione16]

So I had a baby and of January (my first one) and I just in the last week feel ready to be sexual again with OH. However I'm experiencing almost traumatic symptoms! Foreplay is fine, even to the point of orgasm from clitoral stimulation (sorry if TMI) and no pain when doing so. It's when it comes to actually intercourse than as soon as anything goes near, I freeze! It's totally psychological, as no physical pain, but I get overwhelmed with worry - I simply do not want anything "inserted". I've tried breathing and relaxing, ensuring we use lubricant, I just can't get past it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal? And if so, what did you find helped?

Not sure. But I'm 7 weeks postpartum and just tried for the first time to have sex in a year with my husband, who didn't feel comfortable having sex while I was pregnant (fine).

Worst sexual experience I've ever had. Not at all like I remember. It's really bummed me out. I haven't felt this low in quite awhile...

I don't know what the solution is. I'm sorry!! Could you go to the gp to discuss the physiological reaction?

I'm sorry to hear it didn't go well for you, and I really hope it wasn't painful at all perhaps just uncomfortable. I wish more people would reply on here. No one really talks about this part of it all...!

Not painful as such. I felt the opposite problem to you!! It wasn't helped that my husband didn't finish (after a year of no sex). I suppose I'll just have to keep up those kegels and hope some sensitivity returns. But I've never felt this unattractive or unsexy - even at 9 months pregnant I had more confidence than now!

And yes, I wish more people talked about it and replied to this thread!! But at least we know we aren't alone...

I definitely had a psychological barrier for a while, i would have flashbacks to the birth. I hated being on my back, just made me feel really vulnerable. Initially it was also painful then just uncomfortable for a while. We took it slowly and eventually both subsided. Was back to normal by a year definitely. Sex drive definitely took a nosedive post birth also, but i was ebf and have read it is normal. Might be worth speaking to your GP for advice if it persists long term but if you've only tried once or twice I'd give it a little while.

@HopeAndJoy16 that's a good point about being on my back, as that may be reminding me a bit more of the birth. Will definitely try a different position to start with next time and see if that helps

So basically I'm pretty sure this was all linked to prolapse. It's got me absolutely panicked. I can feel things bulging out. I feel like I'm never going to get myself back and never enjoy sex again. I feel like less of a woman (which I didn't think was possible after infertility and conceiving through ivf). Ruined.

My husband isn't the overly effusive type. So he doesn't bandy about compliments. And it's making me feel ever so unattractive.