Hi all
So I’ve been in hospital for 5 days due to my newborn having an infection afterbirth. For 9 months I have been able to cope with things and
Not get easily upset, considering pregnancy hormones, I’ve done pretty well.
I’ve had visits from family during my 5 day hospital stay. One of the visitors (my FIL) comes daily for about 2 hours. I live with him and my husband. During his visits he has annoyed me immensely. He is elderly and has a gas problem, meaning he will burp in your face.
The other issue is, he does not give my daughter or myself any privacy. When feeding her he’s all up in her face and when burping her he’s literally behind me shouting and clapping.
When she sleeps he’s literally by her coat clapping and he’s all over the place in this little ward. This is just 2 hours.
When I was pregnant, he use to walk into our bedroom when my husband and I were sleeping. My husband didn’t say anything to him although we had a conversation about it. He use to lay down in our bed and come in our room when it pleased him, without knocking or even acknowledging that as a married couple sometimes his son and I would need privacy regardless.
Now my baby is here, I know he’ll be much worse and ALL my privacy will go. He’ll be in our room for longer and all the time, in my face.
I feel this will bring so many problems and I keep crying to myself. I don’t want to get post natal depression but it seems I’m heading that way. Whenever I think about heading home to that i find myself in tears.
To make things worse, my mum has stayed with me and he has been rude to her. She feels unwelcome in my house and Is planning on leaving early.
In the last 24 hours I’ve grown extremely cold towards him. I honestly don’t know what to do. I know myself too well, I’ll either leave or make life hell. Talking to my husband is not an option either because he wants to see his dad happy, he doesn’t realise how much his dad affects me.
I need some advice or guidance please. I don’t know what to do