I had DS last week, so I'm putting a lot of these feelings down to post partum hormones. But I just don't know how to break out of these thoughts.
DS looks nothing like me at all. We're a mixed race couple, and DD is a mix of both of us, but DS is just a carbon copy of his dad - white, blue eyed, his features. It's hard to feel like he's mine somehow which I know is ridiculous.
But I feel strange that our two kids look nothing like each other at all.
And the worst is it makes me worry about personalities - again, I know this is ridiculous. DD is so loving and inquisitive and kind. She's a great little person (and I believe this is just her nature really). I'm weirdly worried that DS won't be like her in terms of personality either - what if he's really mean spirited? Or uncaring?
Has anyone else felt like this? I know it's really stupid but if anyone's got any useful thoughts to help me get over these worries here that would be very much appreciated.