Breastfeeding has altered my sex drive

[Izzy12345]

Hi everyone. I had my baby 6 months ago and I have been EBF since he was born. I don't know if it's because of the breastfeeding hormones or just my post natal recovery but my sex drive is at an all time low. We haven't done it since the birth. Initially it was due to the pain I was in and my recovery was very slow. But now it's mainly because I just don't feel in the mood to do it, ever. I don't know why but I've never felt like this before and my husband has been very patient and says he understands but I feel bad and miss the connection it gave us. Is this normal? If so how do you build yourself up again? I also think it may be due to my body, it feels really different now and I don't have the same confidence I used to. It's eating me up inside.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you are looking after your young baby it's natural to want to focus on the baby and the great changes you have been through. It's a matter of priorities.
It will come back in due course.

I felt a bit like this after DD1, but after a bit I actually just made an almighty effort one night to do it. (This it was our anniversary). Anyway I enjoyed it once I got into it. So I kept on making an effort and eventually got my mojo back. It’s bloody hard though at first. So don’t worry you are completely normal.