Newborn - struggling to adapt

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i, I’m a new poster on here so please be kind!
My LB is now 8 weeks old and I’m really struggling to adapt to being a mum. So much so that I have thoughts of “we shouldn’t have done this” and sometimes (often) I regret having him. He’s a lovely child, fairly easy although having a bit of a fussy phase. I didn’t have a bad pregnancy but was anxious throughout how I’d cope being a mum. Labour and birth both ok.

Have been diagnosed with PND but not sure it’s that or just that I don’t like being a mum / can’t adapt! I’ve got lots of support around me and am getting out of the house daily and going to groups. I just want to know if how I’m feeling is normal and if anyone else can relate?? Does it get better?? I’ve got support from a perinatal team for bonding so practically I’m doing everything I can. Just need some advice/reassurance?!

Becoming a Mum is hard and it can take a while to adapt so I think those feelings on occasion is normal but if you feel like that frequently it sounds like your PND talking to me and so won't last forever. Hope you feel more positive soon.

It gets better. You are normal, and it is ok to feel this way.

I remember feeling like my life as I knew it was over. It took a while to adapt to all the changes. By eight weeks I had barely left the house. Then I started getting out to baby groups and meeting others who were going through the same stage. Drinking tea and chatting thing so over helped a lot. I avoided anyone who (lied) made out their life was perfect.

That baby is thirteen now. Life is immeaurably different and in a good way.

You are doing a brilliant job. Just keep doing it, one day or hour at a time. You will get there