Help am i ok?

[laurenluke2017]

So I had my baby by planned c section on Mon 15th, I recovered really well was sent home next day. I feel great to be honest and baby is lovely DH is great. I am genuinely really happy. Only problem is my whole family are doing my head in. The messages, everything. My DH family live far away so we have organised for baby to meet his family( his mum and dad) next week when I feel more mobile. Which is totally fine. My family( mum and dad) are also fine they call, etc but they have been ok and have been to the hosp to meet baby. Its the rest of the family, why haven't you sent more pictures. Can I come round? Is it too soon to pop over? How are you feeling? Are you tired? Can I see him? Facetime me? Why aren't you answering your phone? Are you ignoring me? Then my mums friend like I wanna come round I'l show you this. I'll show you that. I just said to DH, NO enough is enough I want everyone to leave us alone. We are first time parents, I have just had major abdominal surgery, we are trying to get on our feet regarding all this baby stuff like feeds etc. And feel like nobody will leave us alone!! I just feel fed up like I want to shut me, DH and our beautiful baby boy away from the world. I just want some peace! Anyone else feel the same? I feel like screaming GO AWAY! Can i enjoy my new baby PLEASE!!!!! Anyone else?

YES! I hated it with my first I get everyone's excited but sometimes they don't take into account how we are feeling, just their own excitement. It was non stop for days. I'm almost 36 week with number 2 and already dreading the texts etc.

Of course you're ok. I can understand that people are excited about the baby but they are forgetting about your recovery and the totally massive change of being a first time parent.

Don't feel pressurised by the messages, and don't feel compelled to reply. You could get your DH to manage people and for him to reply to them and deal with any demands for your time.

First of all congratulations on your baby boy
I would suggest that you right a polite massage explaining that you really appreciate there excitement and support but you need some time to recover and rest to be more able to enjoy there visit and send it to everyone
And then just do things on you own time start do FaceTime or send pictures or what ever when you feel ok with it

Thanks everyone. Means alot, I'm also just sick of everyone putting there 2 pence worth in. Drives me mad, are you doing this. Don't do that, its really starting to get to me! I've started to ignore phone calls off people etc. Even people saying when you coming over can we see him yet. I've explained how I feel to everyone but and they seem to agree yet still carry on going on. Annoying much! X

Turn your phone off. Or silence all messaging apps. I did this for a couple of days and it saved my sanity :) I just replied to any messages twice a day (around noon and then in the evening), saying "sorry! Had phone off. All is well. Just recovering and adjusting! Will be in touch soon. Love"... and kept that up for a couple of days - things got quieter and I was less stressed and therefore felt more able to actually arrange visitors etc as I didn't feel so constantly harassed!

Phones are a blessing and a curse. Mainly a curse, I'm coming to conclude... ;)

@laurenluke2017

I know exactly how you feel and your not being unreasonable at all!

I suffered really badly with this and like yourself I'm a first time parent, had an emergency c-section and all I got from the day I got home was messages and visitors and all I wanted to do was enjoy our baby and manage the pain/nap when possible.

Do what you want to do, don't be afraid of upsetting people, my DD is 4 months old now and I regret not telling people to leave us be and we will message when we are up for visitors.

Please do take care of yourself, you've just had surgery and even if you're feeling better your insides won't be!