Baby birth certificate

[Summerdays1]

Hi there, I may sound completely mad but I recently changed my DS middle name as I wasnt thinking straight after birth (hormones, 30 hour labour, exhaustion etc). We registered him 2 weeks after he was born and then relised I didnt like the middle name with my surname. So now his new name is in section 17 of the birth cert and old name stil appears at the top. It’s making me so down as I feel I have ruined his birth certificate and how could I have been so stupid. I feel terrible about it and have been for some time. I just cant get it out of my head. My first born child and I have mucked up his birth certificate. I hate the way it looks and how it is different. Has this happend to anyone else? How do I get this out of my head? Sorry thanks

When he is old enough for you to tell him about it, he'll probably think it's an interesting story about how he got his name.

It's his birth certificate, and I don't suppose he'll mind at all that it's a bit different. He might even like it.

So I think you should stop worrying. But if you really can't get it out of your head, might be worth having a word with your hv, in case this is a symptom of other problems.

Thanks MissLingoss,

It’ll certainly be a story to tell and hopefully he won’t mind it. Its just when he was born I had a different middle name that I liked but so many people put there nose in and made comments that it was ‘too common’ and ‘trashy’ so put me off so I rushed to find another and hated it. I wish I stuck with my orignal as it had meaning. I’m so annoyed
that I listened to others as it was none of their business. Just feel gutted and think about it everyday. Just feel I’ve ruined it.

Think I’m going to speak to hv and get some help as it’s ruining my time with my little one

Think I’m going to speak to hv and get some help as it’s ruining my time with my little one

Yes, I think that's a good idea. I hope you're able to start enjoying your little boy soon.

If ds likes the original name when he's older, he can always use it if he wants to. Just keep the 'official' one for things like his passport.

Several of my relatives were always known by names that weren't on their birth certificates. I think it happens quite often.

Hi Summerdaze

How are you feeling now? I'm in almost the exact same situation as you. We chose a different middle name on way to the register office as I got it in my head that the one he had didnt 'flow' with his name. I've regretted it ever since and wish he had the original family name.... but can't bring myself to mess up his BC. I feel like it's so unfair that there's no way to change your mind without it showing especially as new mum brains / hormones make it so hard to make a decision! I actually feel really anxious about it too and is cant stop thinking like I've made a massive mistake. Its getting me quite down. PM me if you want to talk XX