Bonding

[Jorjasmama]

Hi all,
I'm a first time mum to a gorgeous 9 month old. She's a happy little thing, but doesn't seem to want to know me! She has a great relationship with her dad, which is brill, but I can't help but watch them and wish she was like it with me too. When I came home from hospital with her, PND hit me and I was quite ill, so her dad did alot of the feeding and caring for a few months , while I tried to muster up interest in her and seek help. Do you think that's why she's uninterested in me now? I'm so much better now. I play, take her places, sing and laugh, praise her and never without her, but she just cracks the smallest smile and looks for dad the whole time! Even if I comfort her when upset she's crying over my shoulder looking for him! Anyone else with this experience?

My kids were always the same even though I was with them 24/7! Little arses! I think they were just really used to me. Even my 6 week old now, never left his side. Sometimes he will be screaming and I cannot comfort him for love nor money... then my 7 year old walks in and my 6 week old just stares at him and smiles. Or I will hand him to my DP so I can have a wee and he stops crying, even though he barely has him ever. And I’ll be playing with him and he will just start staring at DP instead of me, who’s playing with him!

Honestly I wouldn’t worry, at all. It’s just one of those things and doesn’t mean anything.

It’s just ‘different’, if you know what I mean? Maybe he has an interesting face to her? My middle child loved beards for example, or people with dark hair/eyebrows. Loved starimy... no idea why

Thank you, I think because I had a bad start as a mum, I thought it may have ruined our bond. Just need to learn to relax about it all!

Don’t worry! I had a rough start with my eldest and we are very close now