Is this post natal depression

[greenhills2015]

DS is 8mo, teething and spends most of the day screaming at me.

Nothing I do calms him for very long it is a constant cycle of trying everything to sort him out and then him only being calm for 20 mins max.

I find myself crying most days, I have no family around me and I wish my mum was here so badly. MIL is an absolute cow who makes snide comments about my parenting so she is 0 support and if I did ask for help she'd make a massive point of helping me to everyone because I'm not coping.

I feel down all the time with no energy or motivation to do the house work etc. I find myself counting the hours until DP is Home and usually have a cry when he first goes out the door.

If this is post natal depression - where do I go from here? Do I have to go to the drs for it, what will they do?

You should see a doctor but no, it likely isn’t. You’re going through a REALLY tough time with your child right now and being screamed at is soul grating. It’s enough to send anybody into despair! Put it this way, if he stopped and started smiling at you and being an angel every day - how would you feel? If you’d feel good again then you’re going through a mega shitty time and this will pass along with your child’s screaming, if you’d still be lower than low then there’s a chance it’s PND.

Children crying (screaming like they’re being murdered) is frigging horrific and stressful and bloody awful, were designed to be more stressed about it too (thanks Mother Nature, nob head) so you’re going to be feeling mega shit right now, but I promise you it passes

Can you go out to baby groups as a way of distracting him, I find this works well when DS is teething.. it'll help him and your sanity.

Have a chat with your health visitor for advice on teething and also how you feel.

It's ok to feel like you do when your baby is like that. It's really hard. I second trying to find baby groups where you can chat to other mums and see you're not alone. Speak to your HV too.

Not necessarily. Life with a baby on your own can be total crap. Especially with no support. Ditto for surestart groups. On the days I had my baby at home I made sure we had plans for the day-up, walk, group, walk home, nap (I'd also nap), pop to Tesco, then DH home.
If you know what's next you can count down the day.
Do talk to the HV, that's why she's there. And if you still feel tearful in 2 weeks get to the gp x

I feel a lot like that and I do have PND. It only came on when my dd was 6 months old. You're under a lot of stress and pressure and its understandable you're feeling crap. I've found this stage (DD is the same age as your DS now) so much more difficult than the tiny baby stage.

If you have a MIND service in your local area you can self refer and they will call you for a telephone assessment. I'm having CBT now but didn't have to go through my GP.

I hope you feel better soon