Not letting a baby cry yet getting stuff done... how?

[Treehouse413]

My 8 week old baby likes being held and won’t sit in a chair or play mat for long at all. My husband doesn’t like her to be left to cry yet I don’t see how i can get anything done unless i leave her to cry now & again. On a weekend he will have her for an hour in a morning so i can get stuff done but in the week he works long hours and this isn’t an option. I am not a fan of having her in a sling all the time so how do other people get a shower etc if they are on their own? Also, when out and about what do you do if your baby starts to cry. She is breastfed so as soon as she cries i am frantically looking for somewhere to feed her but sometimes this takes 5 mins or more. I am v stressed out...

Well your husband can do the housework at the weekends then can’t he? Honestly. Look, most people in the first few weeks/months of a new baby feel panicked when the baby cries. Take the baby into the shower with you-or leave her, she’ll be ok. Get your lunch ready the day before or have some ready meals in. And get your husband to step up at the weekend.

A sling was a godsend for me.

I have 3 DC, youngest 2 are 18 months and 6 months so at points they have to cry, but there's a lot of different cries. If DS starts whinging ill carry on what I'm doing and just talk to him/hand him a toy and try to be quick. If hes properly crying and upset then it usually means he needs a feed or is tired and fighting sleep.
If he's just crying because he's bored or wants holding then the housework has to wait.
Try to get things done during nap times and the evening.

I shower in the evening since DC3 was born mostly, if I do in the morning then I pop him in the bouncer seat in the bathroom and keep it quick.

For feeding, if there's nowhere to sit down I'll wait if he's not too upset or if he's properly crying will pick him up in one arm and push buggy with the other until I get somewhere where I can sit to feed him.
Don't worry about where you're feeding him, I found it stressful with my first but now have fed a lot of random places and people honestly don't notice or care.
Try strap tops under a normal top and pull one up and one down then baby and your free hand can cover the boob so people can't see, just feed her the closest place you can find a bench or seat.