Is something wrong with me?

[lacey95]

Had my beautiful daughter almost 9 weeks ago and I've never been more in love. Feeling really strange though as speaking to other mums I don't feel like my experiences are the same. For example, LO had her injections last week and I didn't feel distraught like other mums told me I would. One mum even said it was 'a harrowing experience for a mother' but I was totally fine and just glad she's protected in the long run? Even my partner got upset at her reaction to being injected but it didn't really phase me at all - I knew she'd be okay.
Also, I've had no problems leaving her with my mum/partner when I have to go into university or study. I miss her of course, and can't wait till I get back and see her but I trust my partner/mum to look after her and know she won't mind me being away for an hour or two when needed.

Is this weird? Other mums I know always talk about being unable to leave their babies for months and being an emotional wreck when they do but I don't seem to feel like that at all? Am I some kind of heartless mother? It was a traumatic birth and I didn't feel like she was mine for the first day or two but now I'm totally in love with her and I can't believe how lucky I am to have her. Is this normal or is something wrong with me?

You're normal

Perfectly normal. I think I feel similar to you.
I had a fairly traumatic birth and couldn’t really take in that my DD was born for first few days. I was in a lot of pain.

She’s amazing. But again I had to leave her a for few hours for a hospital appointment with grandparents. An she was fine. I knew she would be. An it wasn’t a huge ordeal for me to have to leave her. Especially as I knew I wouldn’t be long an she’s such a contented baby. Some people are just more relaxed than others. It doesn’t make you a bad mum. My friends were all like aww was it hard. An in all honesty no. For me it was not.

You will be doing other things that you are not aware of which are perfectly normal of ‘mumness’. Ie if my DD has been really still asleep especially during day for a while. I freak out a bit & have to poke her to check she’s okay and breathing 😂😩

Refreshingly normal!

Same here, totally normal

Normal! I've never been upset by injections, left them all happily from being a few days old... you still love them just as much

Normal I hope because I’m the same. I do wonder if some mothers say these things because they somehow think it’s the ‘right’ thing to say rather than actually feel like it.

Thanks everyone! Good to know it's not just me, I was starting to feel like a bad, evil mum!

@Anna2006 yes I've done that too! She was too still and I couldn't see/hear her breathing and took her dummy out to see if she reacted

@KMoKMo yes I wonder too. I'd been too scared to talk about how I felt and that it was different to them in case I seemed really awful but I wonder if others have been a little over-dramatic!

I feel the same as this too. It's pretty normal I'm sure:)