Struggling emotionally after birth

[mumto1chap]

Don't want to bore you all with details but had my first baby a few months ago and had a difficult birth. He was laying in wrong position, pushing for too long so forceps were used and ended up being torn (3rd degree tear)

Came home next day and felt okay. Hubby off work for 2 weeks so was great to get help as I had stitches and v uncomfortable! He went back to work and still felt ok mentally. Just the last week I am feeling really low. Baby is doing great, putting on weight, sleeps amazing through the night but for some reason i feel like I'm not doing enough.hubby is great. Hate when visitors come or we visit and having to share him 😫 I have Good family and friend support

I'm just feeling a bit lonely and not really sure why I'm feeling low when everything is going so well

Now I've written all this I don't even know why I have but just wanted to vent w but I suppose

To add I also have been mentally put off having another child and I know I would like to have at least one more. I also know that my hubby wants more. I have brought the conversation up before but sort of brushes it off. I have also brought conversation of adoption up but he says he would like another of his own before he even thought of that. Just struggling and feeling low 😔

Hi OP, congratulations on your baby and sorry to hear you are feeling down. Sounds like you had a tough birth and life with a newborn can be quite overwhelming so it is very normal to have low days now and again. Do you feel like this often or just now and then? If it's quite regular and affecting your day to day life then definitely speak to your GP or HV as it could well be PND. As for thoughts of another baby - give yourself a chance to recover and get to know this one first! You may feel very differently about having another in time and if you don't then wait until you are generally feeling better to have a discussion with your partner. Sounds like you are doing a fab job with your little one! Hope you feel better soon.