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29 weeks pregnant and living in a foreign country

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Megan94 · 04/08/2017 01:08

I got pregnant pretty quickly when visiting my boyfriend who lives in Switzerland. So I moved in with him and it's not been the easiest 8 months. Obviously I can't speak their language i have done 3 months of german school but I just found the whole thing overwhelming and i did not have a clue what was going on. I don't have a job so I'm basically at home 99% of the time I don't really know anyone apart from him and his family. I feel isolated and alone. I feel sometimes nobody wants to know me because I'm English. His friends don't really make that much of an effort with me, so I sometimes feel left out. I try and not let that bother me all the time because I would just be constantly unhappy but some days it does get to me. My anxiety has gotten worse since being here I don't like to go out and engage in conversation just incase they don't understand me. I'm just worried that when my baby is here I will feel worse, I really don't want that to happen and I do love my boyfriend loads but there will be days where I'm at a wall thinking is this it will it get better, will I make my own friends, will I be able to find a job here. I'm just not a very confident person I'm very insecure about myself I don't think I'm good at anything so it's hard to be positive. I'm just really worried I will get post partum depression. My doctor has already referred me to a psychiatrist but at the minute I just don't see any progress with him. Is there anyone else who has been in the same situation and can share their experiences?

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
salvage · 04/08/2017 01:20

Hi
I'm an expat and while I haven't been in your exact position, it's bloody tough being away from home AND pregnant.
Are you on any English speaking expat Facebook groups? I am a triangle is a good one and they have splinter groups in some countries/cities.
Having kids does actually make finding friends easier, I've always found a 'bumps and babies' type group when pregnant, you'll find others in similar situations, also walking groups, just leaving the house for a walk changes me.
I'm useless with advice on mental health but hopefully someone else can reply to that.

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