Identity crisis

[22WR]

Hi, my son was born 10 weeks ago. I really fee like I'm struggling with my identity at the moment. I feel like nothing is the same about me anymore and I don't know who I am. I'm struggling to lose the last stone and a half of baby weight, my hair and skin feel horrible, and I just don't feel attractive. I'm usually the breadwinner and have quite a hectic job, so I'm finding being on statutory maternity pay and being at home very different. At times I find myself looking forward to returning to work, and sometimes wish I was already there. It feels like I got off the bus and the world carried on, leaving me behind.

I can completely empathise with this. I didnt feel myself at all and I felt guilty for not being happy all the time and not just being grateful for my lovely baby. To be honest I've only just started to feel myself again and that's because I'm back at work (baby is 10 months). I just prefer working and enjoying evenings and weekends with my baby, which makes me feel guilty. I'm still not feeling body confident but it's getting better. 10 weeks is really early on in your recovery and your hormones will still be all over which won't help. You'll get there!