When does it get easier

[MummyG24]

I have a 12 day old baby who im struggling with, i manage fine during the day but soon as night time comes my anxiety and depression kick into full swing. I feel like i cant do it and im struggling with no help in the nights as im a single mum. I also have another child whos 4 and also have to look after her to by myself. Lastnight a relative stayed with me over night which helped me a lot and kept me cool and calm as she was there to do the odd burp or nappy change. Now i know tonight il be alone again my anxiety is through the roof and i feel like i cant stop my insides shaking n find myself crying every half hour which isnt good for me or either of my children to see. Do you think im suffering with PND? And when does it get easier? I just dont see any light at the end of the tunnel

The first few weeks can be so hard, It does get easier but can feel like a right old slog at times. How is the baby feeding? Are you getting much sleep?
Try and take things quite easy, if you are worried about PND please go and see your GP. I found getting out of the house everyday really helped, just a walk around the block helped, ignore the housework for a bit, let the 4 year old watch tv.

He feeds 2 ounce every 3 hours but i find it hard to settle him back down at night time. I dont remember it being this hard with my 4 year old. My 4 year old is so good she occupies herself when she can see im busy which also makes me feel guilty because now we dont get any mummy and daughter time. Iv never had anxiety before having my baby, but now its here it feels like its never going to go away, when my baby sleeps im still up all night unsettled because of the anxiety. I feel like im on my own but reading on here i can see others are feeling the same. I need to be out or with company constantly to lower the anxiety. I think im suffering with PND as i just dont feel like myself anymore n find myself sobbing hard constantly when i know its coming up to the night time n il be alone again with the baby. X

((Hugs)) re the anxiety-
It's probably lack of sleep as well, that makes everything seem so much worse. If your baby is feeding and putting on weight, then you are doing a brilliant job.

And you are not alone! It's easy to think
That everyone else is having a brilliant time with sleeping babies but honestly for most people the first few weeks are not like that. Would it help to get on one of the threads for June babies?
I'm sure your daughter is fine but can you read to her or watch a programme with her whilst baby is feeding (reading might be a bit of juggle but could she hold the book and point at the pictures?)
I really would go and see your GP as well, and talk to your health visitor, although mine was not very interested in how I was doing as long as DS was putting on weight.

I felt awful like you with my first and use to dread nighttime as I felt so alone. The lack of sleep thing made me a bit nuts. It will pass and get better as time goes on but still mention it to hv so they can at least check in with you more frequently. It will get easier v soon!! Every time you get anxious try breathing deeply and slowly and tell yourself it is going to be ok.
Is there anything in particular you are anxious about? Hugs x

The first few weeks are so so so hard aren't they? I've suffered from anxiety my whole life and when it's bad it feels life it's never ever ever ever going to get better ever. It will, and things will get easier every week. Sending hugs xxx my son is three months old and when I think back to what a state I was in at the beginning.... Blah! Things are so much better now. You will feel better, you are coping amazingly even if it doesn't feel like it xxx