When our DD came along we were both overjoyed and happier than ever. My partner is very loving and has generally been a good mother, but about 6 months ago, she had her first glass of wine since she'd given birth. She was breast feeding, so she was careful about drinking it, then she started to drink in secret and would hide it from me. She'd say "it doesn't go into the breast milk", but I couldn't help worry. She became very good at hiding it. She'd put white wine in those green 500ml water bottles, but I'd notice the behavioural change and catch her out. I simply couldn't stop her, final warning after final warning. One day she told me to have a lie in, 2 hours later I got up and realised that she'd been drinking - it was 10am and I was sending her to bed. She'd get abusive towards me, never ever anything towards DD, but I was soon unsure about leaving her alone with DD just in case. I tried getting her to stop breast feeding, but she'd just tell me how it was best for DD, then there'd be an argument followed by a promise to stop drinking. They were always empty promises, so now I feel that I have no choice but to take DD away. I've suggested every kind of support group under the sun, but always get "they don't work" or "I'm not going to that". She says that she's depressed because DD is growing up so fast, but she won't go for any help or support. As a result I'm left looking like a killjoy nag, but I just want what's best for DD. 2 parents is best, but unless the drinking stops I can't see us staying together for even another week. I can't sleep at night for worrying and I don't want to make the problem public because that could simply end everything. I feel totally lost and alone. DD adores her mother and is clingy after her MMR, how can I just take her away from her mother? Do I have any other choice?
Sorry if this is the wrong section to post this in, I just need someone to talk to.