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Jibbywibbles · 27/05/2015 19:54

Hi

Im a stay at home mum and I really need sone advice. I've got a 4 year old and 2 year old and about 9 months ago I started having panic attacks, feeling like I couldn't cope. My anxiety got really bad, health anxiety and then I started to feel disconnected from the world and lost a lot of weight. I started panicking in shops, at play groups etc. I went to the drs numerous times and have been on mirtazapine for a few months. They've helped with some things but make anxiety worse. I tried putting the dose up but ended up feeling even worse. So I went back down to 15mg. I've been carrying on, but I'm really struggling. I feel like crying constantly, I'm on edge all the time, snappy and angry. I don't enjoy being a stay at home mum, I am utterly sick of the same routine and all the anxiety. I want to feel normal like I used to and enjoy my children. My husband isn't supportive and says it's all made up and rubbish. He doesn't agree with medication, says I don't need counselling,etc etc. I want to get a part time job but husband says I should be tag phone looking after the children and he doesn't want anyone else looking after them. I'm scared to change pills as I had bad reaction to citalopram. I've had some counselling but didn't help much. I have some friends but it's not enough as I spend most of my time alone with my children. Is motherhood just supposed to be this hard? I love my children to bits but I'm going insane with boredom/anxiety/identity issues. I get no time to myself and I'm really not sure how to cope with all this! Sorry this was a pretty disorganised rant!

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coneywonder · 29/05/2015 20:33

Hi. Didn't want to read and run.

As someone who suffers from anxiety and depression I know how you feel. Can I be honest? Your husband sounds like he is adding to your issues here, we do not need to hear that it's all rubbish and "we don't need counselling" you need a support system and he doesn't sound like he is being even adequate at supporting you and believe me having someone there who understands and helps you through your bad days is imperative.

Why don't you try and sit down with your husband and explain how much you need his support? Maybe ask him to look into mental health to help him understand?

I'd also suggest going back to your gp and discussing this with them. There are other options and you shouldn't have to live like this.

I stopped taking citilopram when I found out I was pregnant but carried on with cbt, if yu haven't heard of that I would 100% recommend it.

If you need any help or someone to talk to let me know and we will try and sort something?

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