Terrified of sleeping

[snarferson]

Hi all. I had my lovely first baby 4 days ago. She really is wonderful and easy to please and sleeps and settled well.

My problem is I am terrified to sleep in case of SIDS. I have tried to follow all the guidance. She sleeps in a moses basket I'm our room with her feet to the foot and in a grow bag. Unless my partner is awake to watch her I just can't sleep.

I know it's irrational and I don't think I'm over protective or anything, I have no problem letting him look after her or letting family hold her etc it's just this one issue I just can't get over and it frightens me to tears.

Has anyone got any advice on how I can get over this please?? Sorry if I sound like a freak.

In the short term, could you get one of those breathing monitors that sets an alarm off?

In the longer term, I think you should perhaps speak to someone about this. You and your DP will be getting far more exhausted than either of you need to be.

I felt like that with dd1. The sensor pad monitor was the only thing that let me sleep x

We have a sensor pad which is really good for peace of mind, but even with that it took a little while for me to sleep well after the baby arrived. It will get better, you will start feeling a lot more confident that Your baby will be fine while you sleep. Try to get some rest in the day while someone else looks after the baby.

I felt EXACTLY like that. Get a monitor it will change everything and make you feel tons better and let you sleep. Very normal trust me and means you have brilliant mum hormones that are acting as they should x

I was like this too and I got the angel care sensor monitor. Best thing ever!!!

God yes I was exactly the same as you!! As other posters have stated angel care alarm was the best thing I ever purchased and enabled me to get some sleep!!

Thanks all. I've now got the angel care sensor pad and feel a lot better. Still worry a lot but I suppose I should expect that to some degree.

I had exactly the same when my LO was born. Hopefully it will all settle down as your hormones settle, you get used to everything and have the baby alarm to rest your mind. If you do still struggle though feel free to PM me as I had a couple of skypes with a fab psychologist who helped me look at things in a more relaxed way and really helped . Enjoy those newborn cuddles xx

How are you getting on Snar? x

I am ok thanks. I still worry a lot but it's not the gripping terror it used to be. The test will come when DP goes back to work next week and I'm on my own though x

I'm glad the alarm is helping! Just remember the pads are so sensitive it can go off and it's just because baby is in a really deep sleep etc. I use to run over and wake him up lol (poor thing) if alarm went off but it was just because he was in such a deep sleep!! It's good though as it shows it works and I found it really helped me relax.

When DP goes back to work you will be fine.., totally normal to feel this way, I was worried and I bet every other first time mum felt the same! Main thing is to try and fill your days up I found, meeting up with people, going for long walks and going to any baby groups was good. It's good to get out the house, exposes baby to new sights and sounds etc and makes the day go quicker until DP gets home x