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Struggling 3 weeks on

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dancestomyowntune · 24/02/2015 21:20

Dd3 was ten weeks early and born three weeks ago by emergency c section. She was in neonatal until the weekend, when they moved her back to our local hospital SCBU.

I was discharged on day 5 and haven't seen a midwife or anyone for my recovery since leaving hospital. I'm not too worried physically, my tummy is still a bit sore but I am managing.

However, I am becoming increasingly weepy and the longing to bring my baby girl home is so strong I cry every time I leave the unit. I can't be there all the time, I have four other children and they need me too. I feel so guilty everytime I go to the hospital, and I feel terrible when I leave. I am finding it hard to get up in the morning and hard to keep smiling everytime anyone asks me how the baby is. She is doing so well, but she isn't home, and probably won't be for several weeks.

I just want this nightmare to end.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Quitelikely · 24/02/2015 21:31

You poor lady. My heart goes out to you.

I'm thinking because your baby hasn't been discharged yet then no paperwork has been sent to the local midwives who do the home checks.

Stay strong, you're doing an amazing job looking after four children and a newborn in hospital.

Have you thought of contacting homestart for temporary help? It's possible they can help with your dc whilst your at the hospital some days?

Or can you afford a sitter?

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PlumFairy2014 · 05/03/2015 18:46

I'm sorry I don't have any great advice, but I think you're amazing coping with your DC's and your new LO being in scbu.

My Dd was in Nicu (not for weeks!) and it was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. There were support groups available through the local children's centre, also the midwives (at the local birthing centre) were really supportive if you have either near by?

My situation was nowhere near as stressful as yours, but I would take all help offered (and ask!) from friends, family and professionals. Then hopefully it will give you more time with your baby and to recover.

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PlumFairy2014 · 05/03/2015 18:48

And MN is always here for a vent.

You will be on the other side of this soon, with your beautiful baby at home. X

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