October 08 - The Second Year

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

Classic from dd just now during lunch:
'Mummy, do you think that Duncan is trying to do a poo-poo?'
'I've no reason to think he is poppet. Why do you think he is?'
'Because I've got a brain.'

Oh CSWS I LOVE your dd!

Star - You are very unfortunate to be surround by so many unsupportive people! Your friend is not a good friend. I would never make my friends feel bad about their parenting skills. DH thinks I am totally paranoid about the safety of my two, for example, he thinks I am being over the top to have banned M from going to the in laws because they have a Jack Russell who has the total run of the house & does what it wants. That dog is not controlled & they refuse to put it outside when M is round there, so she isn't going round there. But...... where I know the surroundings are generally safe I have no worries leaving M to wander. Like Pistachio, I know the sounds of mischief (and yes it is usually silence).

I am really stuck for ideas for M's stocking. I have thus far got some sparkly shoes and some hair ties with matching clips. I don't want to put sweets in her stocking (I will put some chocolate in DS's) so any ideas......?

csws!

pistachio - she really did explain that what she meant was that different people focus on different things and we all make mistakes.
I think I just look up to her as a mother so much (because she is a great mother) that I tend to be over sensitive to the things she says because I respect her so much. I don't think she sees that (her self esteem isn't high) She would probably say that her saying that was all to do with just explaining that people have different anxieties as parents...etc.
I'm just over sensitive and am trying to get past that one phrase.

You're also right, of course that Q is seeing how to treat his future partner. That's why I want this stopped! Perhaps I should buy him marriage counselling as a christmas present?

She is a good friend. Let's not talk about this anymore because I don't want anyone to say bad things about her. I feel badly now I was just upset by her saying that is all.

50ft - stockings. We have put in stuff that he would normally get as a treat anyway - like fruit bars, raisins, organix carrot sticks instead of sweets. Then we bought cheap cooking utensils, a wire whisk, spatula - all of the much coveted kitchen objects so he can have some of his very own He'll be over the moon to discover those from his stocking. He's only 14 months, so we figure, while we can get away with stuff like that, why not?
We'll also put in a package of toothbrushes (he's obsessed with his toothbrushes!) a container with a cap (loves to open/shut stuff) and probably a cheap grown up silver spoon (pound shop perhaps - as ours keep going missing all over the place!)

Star - If she is a good friend, then you should tell her how she sometimes makes you feel. Don't suffer in silence. The treat idea is a very good one. If we could get away with not having a stocking for M that would like easier but as we have DS, we can't get round it (because he is a smart arse kid who asks too many questions).

Again, I agree with Pistachio - Bright children like dd can be very tricky. DS is a real smart arse and has recently discovered sarcasm. Yay! I am starting to wonder if his teacher isn't too fond of him because he is such a know-it-all. He has been on the same reading level for ages (and so has been reading the same books & is very bored) and others have been moved up but not him. I really don't like his teacher this year......

I did say something at the time. Then I also text her something when it was still circling in my mind. But no response. She's been unwell this weekend, but was able to do some other things, I guess just not respond to me. It's fine. I'll work it out. Just really wanted to know if I really was negligent or if other people also let their DC wander around. And I'm very very glad to hear that I'm not alone! So, thank you!

We're giving Q a stocking to "build tradition"
We are also putting in stuff we'd normally buy him like baby bath! He'll love playing with that for a while, too. weird kid!

Star - DS loved playing with the dustpan and brush when he was this age. He would also take the plates out of the cupboard, re-stack them on the floor, then carefully put them back in the cupboard. Odd! M mostly likes playing with my iPhone charger, the Wii controllers, bits of paper, shoes and my make up bag.

Q loves the blackberry charger, too! He's broken 2 Also loves Wii controllers. Maybe I'll stick one of those in his stocking, too! It will just end up back in it's place anyway

WHen does the SS gift need to be sent by?

Hi all

star you are a great mummy and you never need to justify yourself, if someone asks if you think you are then you should say "of course I am, Q is perfect, well educated, safe and eats well, he walks and talks and is actaully doing extremely well for a child of his age" and if you like add " so up yours"

P wonders from room to room, I have left her too long and sometimes a matter of seconds and she has tripped but it shows you it can happen if youare there or not, you cant be there forever.

myjob and 50ft You are both perfect, I know you feel uncomfortable, I do too, we will never feel happy about our bodys as they are different from pre children, I think we have to look at tham and except that we are lucky for them being able to carry our beautiful children. I find this hard but am trying to accept it and keep my belly covered, boobs padded out and shed loads of make up on

50ft love the dream, hehe, I am wondering if I was in it would I have been cleaning the tent

P is funny at the mo, if she does something she should not be doing she keep looking shifty at me then lowering her head whilst trying to grab whatever it is she wants and then puts her hand through her hair/on her head as a distraction, she is getting a bit too clever athough I have her sussed

Oh you're all making me feel anxious - we still haven't sorted out what we're getting S for Christmas let alone worried about a stocking (I like your ideas for stocking fillers though Star ).

I let S wander around too Star. I know you don?t want to dwell on it, but I would also feel very upset if I?d had that conversation with a friend. Isn?t this the same friend who has commented on other aspects of your parenting?

So, we went to the pool today and it was so worth the hassle of getting changed because the girl was eventually confident enough to go into the water and let go of the side for the first time. It took a while, but I was really proud of her!

Aubergenie - we're getting Q a play kitchen. He's more into mobility toys than sit and play toys iyswim. I think he'll love the kitchen as it has a stove he can open and shut,put stuff in/take out, he can pretend to stir, cook...etc. Its just a tiny one and not expensive. I found one for 15 pounds that would fit in our place but was going to buy one off netmums nearly new. I'm also getting him this little cleaning trolley with a mop, broom,pail...etc. - he will love pushing that around (on wheels) and using its contents. We wanted to get the blue baby buggy from elc that he plays with every time we're in there and we have to pry from his hands when we leave but they were sold out. he just loves to push stuff around. So the cleaning trolley was a nice compromise. And cheap. Looking for a nearly new / second hand toy hoover somewhere. Someone on netmums was gong to sell me her toy dyson for 8 pounds, but then never emailed me back! I won't pay a lot for one, but I know it's something he'd adore and carry everywhere. I also got this vtech laptop thing pretty cheap - but the only reason I got it was a huge discount offer at additions direct. And it had a minimum spend, so we might save that for when he's a bit older. We were only going to get him a piggy bank and a toy pushchair. We would have gotten him the kitchen eventually anyway, though, so figured we might as well

Jenwa and aubergenie - thank you She really wasn't trying to make me feel badly (I don't think). I think she just wanted to say that different people focus on different things and that we all make mistakes. I just got so stuck on that question and that she wouldn't answer it... just felt like it meant that she really does think that It's probably just my hormones.

Been feeling like I"m going to cry a lot lately. I think I'll start taking those AD's again.

lol pistachio

Glad getting into the pool was well worth it, aubergenie!

Star. Never ever let someone undermine your parenting.
Has Q ever had to go to hospital because he was properly injured? not because you panic
Was Q the very first child to walk on this thread?
Has Q got ridiculously advanced fine and gross motor skills?
Quite frankly if anybody said those things to me they would be on the recieving end of some colourful language.
Your Dh is suffering from classic post baby jealousy. His behaviour this weekend in childish and pure attention seeking. He is jealous that you can drive, but too damn idle to get off his arse and do his test!!
Like I said last week. He behaves like a child then treat him like one!

Myjob at least N got some sleep and is getting a bit better.

I may try that Ronshar. I left our home a mess (didn't do usual cleaning for a couple of days) and he definitely took notice of the mess. Not sure if he totally connects that it's because I'm not doing it!

She will say that Q is safe and happy and that he's a great kid. She even tells me I'm a great mom! It's just little comments like that which make me feel not so great.

Glad N is a bit better myjob!

We got Q some mini utensil things from Vertbaudet a while ago - well they came free with our order (the only time I've ordered any clothes for him and it was just a sleeper!) Anyway, he enjoyed them for a bit... but wanted the life sized ones so we're just buying £1 sets of safe utensils from sainsbury and the pound shop to put in his stocking. He also prefers the 79p tesco way to big for him mop to the £5 children's mop
Shouldn't there be holiday smileys?

Star, I have a friend who I really look up to as a mother. I really think sometimes too much, but i value her advice very highly and always look to see how she handles certain situations with her little girl for future reference. I know that if I thought she was questioning my parenting I would take it to heart and try to see where I might be going wrong. What I am tryng to say is I think I know where you are coming from!

On the other hand, nobody is perfect! I am sure that as time goes on you will get more confident and you will start to see what everyone on this thread is telling you - that you are a lovely mother and it shows in Q