Worrying about death?

[Potatohead2]

I have a 3.5yo son and a 11 week old daughter. Since becoming a parent, especially after giving birth to my daughter, I keep worrying about death, like who’s going to take care of my babies if I weren’t here, how painful for them to have to grow up without their mum, etc… Whenever I saw a video on social media about a child losing their parent, I can’t stop crying and think about my children. This thought keeps popping in my head and I hate it so much but I can’t stop. It’s driving me crazy.

About myself, I’m healthy, apart from some random pain here and there which we all have.

has anyone ever felt the same? Is it just because I’m in the postnatal period or I actually have a mental health problem?

Hi op, sorry you e not had replies.

I used to feel like this when mine were tiny. It was - I think - because they were exactly that - tiny and vulnerable and your mind works overtime caring for them. You're exhausted and you start to dwell. Mine are now young adults and it got better with time but I do still occasionally think about how they'd cope. You will always, ALWAYS worry about your children. My late mum used to tell me that you worry even when they're adults! But it does get better.

If it persists or becomes acute, have a chat with a professional.

Thank you for responding. Knowing that I’m not the only person having this thought made me feel so much better x

I think that’s quite normal, as long as it’s not intrusive. I went the other way - was terrified of something happening to DCs. If it’s becoming difficult, please talk to someone. I was diagnosed with PND very late and was very ill by the time it was picked up.

Oh, and be very mindful about what you watch on social media or anywhere. I couldn’t watch anything sad for months after my two were born. Your emotions and hormones are very heightened, so surround yourself with gentleness.