Newborns and cots

[Nat78]

Hi,

We brought my baby home last night and she has screamed Everytime she's in the next to me cot. We can't seem to narrow it do we. Does anyone else have this issue. I'm exhausted, me and my partner have took turns to stay up with her but we are so unsure what to do

Is the baby swaddled ? What are they dressed in ? Try putting something that you have worn tucked in somewhere safely that baby can smell and mane heat mattress up with hot water bottle before placing them in obviously take it out when putting them in.

Have you got all their wind up ?

@Nat78 im afraid that’s what babies do! She’s just spent 9 months snuggled up inside you and she doesn’t know that isn’t living in a cave with predators nearby. Her instincts are saying stay near me.

I’ve never managed to get my babies in cots so have coslept using guidance by the lullaby trust. My husband has slept in the spare bed for a year or so whilst I cosleep. It’s not for everyone but for us it was the way we got the most sleep.

Hey, yeah she's been swaddled,

Hey. Yeah she's been swaddled and the only thing we could think of was she was getting cold as she was fine in the cot at hospital for the 2 days. I know it's a new thing for newborns and I expected the night to go like this but wanna know what else to do I the future.
Will try the hot bottle trick and I have brought all her wind up

Hi OP. When our DS was newborn he hated the Next to me and I think he felt too small and lost in it. We put him in his Moses basket and put that inside the next to me and he was much happier like that. By the time he grew out of the Moses basket he didn't feel so lost in the cot.

But as PP's said, some newborns just want to be held all the time to feel safe.

Ours did this too but don't worry! We did eventually get her down. Ours would absolutely not sleep on the next to me. It was too roomy (she had just spent 9 months tucked up in a small space). I had a Nuna pram and the carrycot was safety rated for overnight sleeping. So I popped the hood up and she finally slept in that. We figured out quickly she needed to be more snug than in a big next 2 me. So the next day we went out and bought a Moses basket, the ones that are called "Noah pods". They have a sort of hood to them. She obviously slept like a newborn still but she would at least go down in that, as it was way more snug. She slept in that until about 3/4 months when we moved her to the next to me. But the way we did it was to initially have the Noah pod sit in the next room me and then eventually we took her out of it and into the next to me and she didn't mind at all.

She was also swaddled. We used the love to dream swaddles, they allow babies to sleep on an arms up position, which she preferred.

We also used red light at bedtime and white noise. All helped keep her calm. Don't get me wrong, she was still waking every 2-3 hours like a normal newborn but we were able to sleep in between.

Good luck!

I think all parents should know safe co sleeping rules just in case. https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

Are you bf or bottle? Can you feed on your side lying down in bed, then transfer her over?

If you can hold on a few minutes until she goes into deeper sleep then try and put her down to a warm surface, you might have more luck. Also keep your hand on her tummy for a while and slowly withdraw, it feels like being held so less of a shock of being put down.

Babies change so fast, what they do in hospital and what they do at home changes! And a lot of it is down to what they're like, not what you're doing.

I'll be honest I put mine in a baby nest in the bed next to me and she slept there are night until she outgrew it and then I put her in the next to me . she loved the nest and I slept better because she was right next to me she had an owlet sock own as well

Just got reference op, they advise you not to do this as it increases sids risk. (Even if it might work well for sleep!)