Hate my body after having a baby

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I have always struggled with my weight and my confidence but when I first got with my boyfriend he would always make me feel so beautiful and really headed that part of me that used to think so badly and low of myself as long as he thought I was beautiful nothing else mattered to me . Since having my daughter I feel like I have gained a lot of weight she's 8 weeks old and I was always quite chubby and had to work quite hard to not gain weight or keep my weight down it didn't come easy to me and I can't eat what I want I just hate my body at the moment I feel sick when I look in the mirror I feel like a monster and unlovable like nobody would ever look at me and want to be with me ... I think this has developed into me being convinced my boyfriend wants to leave me and meet someone else I have no evidence of this it's just purely what I keep thinking in my head and he does nothing wrong but I can feel my constant need for reassurance is pushing him away but I just don't see myself as lovable anymore or attractive so I just naturally think he dosnt I feel so lost and upset I just want to get myself back and my spark I used to have . Has anyone gone through something similar and stated to her paronoid of a partner due to their own insecurities and problems with their self ?

Hi, I'm sorry you're going through this. I understand completely. I have just had my 3rd baby who is around the same as yours. I've always had confidence issues with my weight and after having my children I feel like my body has changed, my hips are wider and I'm a bit wobbly, I have a tummy pouch and cellulite. So I can understand how you are feeling. My only advice is to come up with some sort of weight loss plan, give yourself a goal, work out how you can implement more exercise into your routine even if it's just walking, see the GP? Above all that, you could find things you like/love about yourself and focus on those things. Your body has been through a lot growing a human, so also cut yourself some slack and be kind to yourself. Positive affirmations? Nice rewards for yourself when you hit a milestone? I know it's hard with a baby but try to focus on you. Fake the confidence till you make it, it might help? I honestly don't know if any of this will be useful but I do sympathise. You're amazing and I'm sure your DP doesn't see what you see. This is what my DH says to me. Good luck, i'm sure others will have better suggestions!