Husband can't get baby to sleep... any tips?

[PinkPomelo]

My is 9 months old and EBF. She will take a bottle sometimes, sometimes not (mostly not). I feed her to sleep pretty much every nap and at bed time, I've tried waking her up after to break the association but she is sound asleep. I don't want to stop it really, but my husband really struggles to get her to nap whenever I go out. It'd be great if he had a method to get her to sleep even when she refuses a bottle, but problem is if she won't take a bottle she probably isn't hungry enough to sleep. Any tips?

Same situation here! The only thing we have found that sometimes works (maybe 60% of the time, so better than 0) is that if we know I’m going out for a few hours then I wear one of his t shirts all day with a muslin stuffed in my bra the day before, stay in that all day and all night, literally get changed seconds before I leave and he puts the t shirt on and pops the muslin in her crib. The smell seems to be enough to trick her into thinking its me long enough to fall asleep😂 We have literally tried everything and this doesn’t always work but it’s the only thing we’ve had any success with!

May or may not be a help, but DH always used to have success driving round in car.

Sometimes until dawn!

Just realised that sounds bad - I wasn’t even out - just for me to be able to sleep!

Can you start a routine of having a pram/pushchair nap each day. Then once baby is use to doing that with you, they might with others.

My daughter was EBF and my husband had to drive her, walk her in the pram or put her in the carrier and wander around the house for naps. For bedtime if I was out he would walk around holding her or sit in an ikea chair bouncing until she fell asleep. Occasionally he could transfer her to the cot afterwards, sometimes he just held her until I got home.
It's not easy but he usually set something up to entertain himself if he anticipated being nap trapped lol

I get why you don't want to stop feeding her to sleep. It's so easy and quick. But it worked well for me to separate the feeding and the sleep as j

Posted too soon.. as now others can put down for nap. I try and feed in a different room, with lights on etc. then move to bedroom after. I think I started with bedtime then did naps after. It's meant both of us can do bedtimes and now if I'm not around to feed DC is happy without me

As a father, this is just a thing you have to accept with breast fed babies until they are fully on solids. It's hard on mum, but they just squeal 80% of the time until they get what they are missing (boob). Three kids and they were all the same until 1 ish, and then they would let me settle them more often.

My 1 year old is EBF and my husband has been able to get him to sleep 2-3 nights a week without boobs/bottle.

Suspect it being a regular occurrence helps, rather than an occasional thing. Also we use other sleep cues like white noise and a pacifier, and if he’s struggling to nod off we will rock him to sleep.

good luck!