Does my friend have post natal depression?

[TayceOnToast]

My good friend is struggling with her new baby (4 weeks)

how do I spot the difference between post natal depression and someone who is simply burnt out from being a first time mum? Is it black and white or is there a sliding scale?

what can I do to help her?

Already done so far:
asked her outright if she’s ok
offered to help with the baby on my days off
brought her food

what else should I do or not do?

thanks

Only time will tell if she has post natal depression. You sound like a great friend, I would pop over to do the washing up, hoover etc just make her drinks and snacks and in passing ask her about the things she feels she wishes she could do right now. When you see her give her a huge hello before you acknowledge the baby. When I had my kids I realised people barely made eye contact with me, just with the baby and that made me feel a bit invisible! Hopefully it will keep her communicating with you.

Thank you! I’m pleased to report she seems to be doing much better now, she definitely seems to be gaining confidence as a mum and is much less overwhelmed. We’re close friends and I’ve been round a few times to just hang with her and her baby for the day, I think she has really appreciated that adult interaction and having someone to hold the baby for her and give her a break. Up and up from here 🤞. Thanks for replying 🙏 xx