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Unwell Partner when Postpartum

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KD1988UK · 29/05/2024 23:58

I am really struggling. My partner has hurt his leg and back through muscular injuries and I am breastfeeding.

He is doing everything he can like going to the chiropractor several times a week, getting sports massages and taking medication. It’s slow progress and he has been like this for months. He is helping as best he can with the baby but is struggling to even change his nappy due to needing to bend down so I am effectively doing all feeds and nappies including all night feeds -and I am exhausted.

My baby is 5 weeks old and I feel like not only I postpartum and dealing with life as a new mum looking after my baby but I am now shouldering the load my partner cannot do. He keeps asking me to fetch him things whenever I try and sit down and I am getting so frustrated with it. He is trying his best in ensuring I have lay ins and sterilises all of the bottles but I cannot help get frustrated whenever he asks me to fetch something or do something for him when I have been breastfeeding/pumping or looking after our baby day and night (when he is also getting a full nights sleep!).

We don’t even have anyone who can help chip in and share the load. I know he is trying his best to get better but I am so frustrated. I see advice for partners telling them to ensure that their breastfeeding partner has plenty to drink and snacks and instead I am doing it all myself and also fetching and doing things for him.

Has anyone dealt with having an unwell partner when they are also postpartum?

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GerbilsForever24 · 30/05/2024 00:05

Thisnismt really the question you are asking but as a long time chiropractic patient, his current treatment of multiple sessions a week sounds wrong. Good.vhirporactors don't want this level of engagement for more than a fee weeks at a time.

I'd also.say if the back problems are this bad with no improvements after weeks, he needs more investigation and medical support.

At a practical level, is it possible to bring in support? Paid if necessary? Perhaps a housekeeper a couple of hours a few times a week for general help, perhaps some.snack making etc?

GerbilsForever24 · 30/05/2024 00:06

Sorry. Typing with dd basically on me. Hope that's readable.

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