Missing my first born

[Anoushka1986]

Hi I'm 6 days postpartum and have been experiencing some big emotions this week. I'm really missing my time with my older son and feeling so guilty that he's not my only child anymore. I worry that having another child will take away from the special bond we have. I know it's a lot of hormones and sleep deprivation influencing me but just feeling really sad. Can anyone relate?

Can totally relate, but I think these feelings will gradually resolve. How old is your elder baby? And congratulations on your younger baby!

Congratulations!

It gets easier. And this is normal. You absolutely won't lose your special bond.

I make time for my eldest every week. We do things that we can't do with his younger brother (like play board games or watch a film).

I've also found that as my youngest is getting older (18 months now), their bond is really forming so I'm noticing less on what my eldest has lost and more on what he's gained. They're obsessed with each other.

I've definitely not worded that well, but hopefully you get my gist.

Congratulations.
Once things settle down and you see the bone between them develop it will all be worth it.

Had to lol at the bone 😄

Thanks for all your kind words. It did make me feel better for so many people to respond so quickly. This readjustment is really hard but I know I will get there.

It's so hard! I felt like this too. And your older one will be feeling it too! But it does get better, I'm 6w PP now and we've just about found our new places within our family of 4. My eldest is a toddler and it is so lovely to see how much toddler loves the baby, even if it is demonstrated through pokes in the eyes/ears/nose and tugs on hands and feet!

Congratulations on your new baby 😍