6 week old smiles at other people but not me

[distressedmuso]

Just that. We had an emergency c section that affected how well (or not) I understood feeding cues etc in his first week or so and now although it sounds mad I’m not sure he trusts me. I’m not always quick enough to respond to him in the night if I’m feeling sluggish. When we interact it’s mainly breastfeeding and he falls asleep afterwards. My husband and his side of the family are extroverted smiley people and he responds to them, whereas I am an introvert prone to worry. I love my son so this isn’t a bonding thing as such.

Tiny babies have not grasped you (mum) are separate to them - your little baby literally thinks you are still one person for the first bit! Don’t worry too much (easier said than done I know) and it will come. The first time the baby notices you is lovely, but not immediate! all the other people are just that - others - so baby looks at them in a different way.

Take care of yourself and try and rest when the baby rests, this little first bit of their life feels so long at the time but when you look back in the future it goes so fast.

Thank-you Adagio x

This exact thing happened to me: my ds would smile for everyone but never me. I thought he could sense my PND and I was giving off bad vibes, or that I was doing something wrong and making him miserable. It was just one of those things though. Now he smiles at me all the time!

Thanks, I think seeing lots of relatives over New Year was just unfortunate timing and they got his first smiles when I was a bit tired and blue. He smiles at me now thank god.