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PLEASE SOME 1 HELP ME I HAVE POSTNATAL DEPRESSION

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sammylo88 · 28/12/2007 08:36

i have had depression since i was 7months pregnant my son is 14months old now and i feel worse i was very young to have a child and i had to move out of my mums house and i do not cope with my son at all every thing i do is wrong i snap at every 1 im horrible to my partner im shocked he is still with me the way i treat him i shout and scream at every 1 and if not doing that then im crying its got so bad i hate being left alone with my son because i feel i do a bad job that he is better of with out me every one is i have been on anti depressetants for 8 months or more as you see i do not feel better the hv in my area i do not like as they could my son fat and told me i feed him to much great help they were i just want some advice i just cant cope any more

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Pod1 · 28/12/2007 08:48

I'm not sure if I can say anything to make you feel better but couldn't not reply to your post. Can you talk to your mum?

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sammylo88 · 28/12/2007 08:55

yes i can but i do not feel she understand me as she just says you are doing fine and your just putting yourself down but im not fine i just do not know what to do maybe it would be better if i left

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karen999 · 28/12/2007 08:57

Poor you. It's terrible being depressed but you should talk to someone about how you are truly feeling...sometimes just getting it all off your chest can help. Also, speak to your GP about how you are feeling. There is help out there for PND and if you can get support from your mum and partner then that will help too.

Pod1 · 28/12/2007 09:14

You've made the first step by coming on here to 'talk'. Bet there are lots of people who have felt/ are feeling just like you and will be along shortly with good advice. Don't give up your little boy loves you and needs you.

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sammylo88 · 28/12/2007 09:19

thanks i know he does

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needmorecoffee · 28/12/2007 09:26

Hi Sammy. I had PND after each of my 4 children but by no 3 had found ways of coping. First, go see your GP, it sounds like your anti-depressants aren't working at all and they need changing. PND is very common. Have you got another health visitor you could talk to? Some towns have 'depressed mums groups'. Sounds awful but can be really helpful.
Another thing, and this is hard at first, is to get out of the house and go to toddler groups and mums meetups. Being stuck at home day after day is enough to drive anyone nuts. Mumsnet has a 'meetup' section. There might be something going on in your area or maybe post and see if anyone wants to meet up.
I was a screaming harridan with my first 2 the PND was so awful.

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sammylo88 · 28/12/2007 09:37

thanks very much i have talked to my gp about medication and he said that one im takin is just talkin its time to work this is my thrid one i have tryed. can talking to some one make me feel better i just feel awful unloading all my problems on someone who has their own to deal with my partner forces me to take my son to a playtime group i hate it he loves it but i hate it and i think that if i tell any one their how i feel they will laugh at me thats why i wrote on her because no 1 can see you and why would their care any way also it does not help that their all alot older than me im only 19 it just seems to be an ongoing cicle for me every i try to do to make me feel better i find something bad in it

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needmorecoffee · 28/12/2007 09:47

its part of depression Sammy. CBT counselling can help break that cycle but it means going back to your GP.
I think many mums sevretly hate toddlers. I did and I only take no 4 cos she likes it. She has Cerebral palsy so people stare at her and I get fed up listening to nappy talk for the 4th time but dd enjoys it and it gets me out of the house.
Have you made any friends at toddlers?
Medication should word after 2-3 weeks, if not then a different drug or dose should be done.
Righty, have to take number 2 to the hozzie. He's 14 and moaning and complaining about having to go. Nothing like wrestling a teenager taller than me onto a bus. Sigh.

dressedupnowheretogotilxmas · 28/12/2007 10:07

hi im jayne im 26 and i so know where yor coming from i could have wrote this post too me and my partner nearly split up in the summer becase i was so depressed on a downward spiral i couldnt get out of.

if you want to talk im on msn on [email protected] or call me on 01159469339

im here to listen if you want to talk

motherhurdicure · 04/01/2008 19:05

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IrishHelen · 06/02/2008 09:45

I'm 32 and have PND with my little one. Although I love her to bits, I do think she'd be better off with just her Dad, but I have to work through those feelings and so do you. Her Dad and I have been together for 11 years but we are going through a very tough time because of the PND, especially since I don't want to get intimate. It does help to talk to someone else, I've been talking to my health visitor after breaking down in the heath centre one day. It is good to be able to talk to someone who isn't judging you. I have no family or friends around me and she suggested that I join Mum's net. I found the mother toddler group near me so into themselves and their own click I couldn't face going back again. But it didn't help, if one doesn't work, try and find another group, or a swimming group. I don't have the answers but you are not alone!!!

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