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Taking baby to a wedding at 3 months?

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Upsideandundergarments · 02/09/2021 12:20

I'm hoping to get some advice from people actually in the know...

I've been invited to a close friends wedding and I really want to go. However, I'm pregnant at the moment and all being well baby will be just 3 months old on the big day.

I do understand baby might come early/ late, the birth might be complex and I won't be cleared to go, baby may be unwell etc. However, is it still silly to even think about it even if everything is well?

A couple of relevant points:

The wedding would be either a boat or plane ride away. We will then rent a car to drive to the wedding location. We have family along the way so will be stopping overnight after the flight and midway through the drive. Baby won't be in the carseat more than 2hours per day.
We have a self-catering cottage on the wedding site so can easily nip back and forth through the day.
We will have close family there who have all said they are very happy to help and will naturally retire early so are happy to take the baby. They are very realiable/ won't be drinking.
We will then be doing a holiday (with close family) so staying in the cottage for another 4 days so don't have to immediately do the return journey.

Weddings are tricky to organise so while I would love to go I don't want to RSVP yes if it's very unlikely. If wise people in the know think it should be ok then I'll confirm and if I do have to pull out we will send the couple the cost of our meals and a gift. The cottage will be used by family so no problems there.

I honestly am clueless. I'm sure the responses will be either omg PFB syndrome of course you're fine or oh god no what are you even thinking lol! Grateful for any advice.

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LouNatics · 02/09/2021 12:25

You will be fine OP. Lots of pairs of hands, a non mobile baby, a chance to have a drink and see friends and have a holiday? Do it.

Sure, life can get in the way re illness or massive curveballs but they can happen to anyone at any time.

There would be no reason at all I could see not to go to an event with a 3 month old baby. 3 days maybe!

JennaPenna · 02/09/2021 12:25

I think knowing you have close family who are also there and your staying on anyway in the cottage, you will be absolutely fine!
3 months tbh is a great age as they are so happy to just people watch and be entertained by people saying hello to them. They aren't crawling or on their feet!
I would happily do this!

parietal · 02/09/2021 12:28

3 months is a good age for a baby to travel. especially if you are breastfeeding so you don't need to worry about heating food / bottles etc. older ages (e.g. 9mo) can be much worse because you have to warm food and schedule naps etc. A 3mo can just stick with you and smile and gurgle.

Twizbe · 02/09/2021 12:40

At 3 months you'll be fine. They will be coming out of newborn so likely not so cranky in the evenings.

If you're breastfeeding you'll be past the worst of the cluster feeding.

Lots of family there and plenty of time there. Should be fine.

Just check baby is invited too.

Echobelly · 02/09/2021 12:42

I think it's fine - as others have said 3 months is pretty good for travel; not mobile, not too loud, you're hopefully out of the 'newborn fog' by then, I'd got for it.

gogohm · 02/09/2021 12:51

You'll be fine.

I did a 2500 mile road trip when dd was 4 months, was so easy - traveling with toddlers however...

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Upsideandundergarments · 02/09/2021 15:32

lol wow @gogohm! Very brave.

Thank you all so much for responding. It's incredibly reassuring. It's all such an unknown.

Really grateful to you all :D

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Dollywilde · 02/09/2021 15:37

Just echoing others, you’ll be fine. We did a hotel wedding at 4 weeks, which with hindsight was slightly mad but a lovely way to intro baby to the family before the winter COVID restrictions kicked in. Baby is now 12 months and would be much much harder! I think after about 6 months it’s trickier because you tend to be in more fixed routines, at that age they’re very portable and you should be feeling less postpartum by that stage

puglovesbooks · 02/09/2021 16:28

The only issue at 3 months is getting a passport in time - worth considering this if you are talking about a different country?

If you are in England then depending on where you live you might not even be able to get the birth certificate till 6 weeks so would be cutting it very fine!!

OlivesTree · 02/09/2021 16:33

Perfect time to travel with a baby! I did UK to Aus with my babies at 4 months old and it was fine. Breastfeeding makes things easier.
Gets trucker from 5/6 months in my experience when they are more alert and becoming mobile.

Ticklemycarpets · 02/09/2021 16:53

I was a bridesmaid across the country when my daughter was the same ages. It wasn't easy but I wouldn't have missed it.

Scottishgirl85 · 10/09/2021 21:09

We took our 1st baby to a wedding at 3 weeks old, and to another wedding at 5 weeks old. Completely fine and enjoyable, even after a section. Only problem was our dd got more attention than the bride!

Lindy2 · 10/09/2021 21:37

You'll be fine at a wedding with a 3 month old. The cottage on site and helpful family sounds perfect.

You might not necessarily want to stay up particularly late, even with the kind offer of a babysitter. Sleep often becomes the more attractive choice than staying up drinking when you know you'll be looking after a small baby the next day.

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