Single Mumming

[Babymama2020]

Hello,
I have a little baby who is 10 weeks today
Baby daddy has ended the relationship saying that something changed. I had explained to him that I’ve been feeling pretty rubbish after birth, that I don’t feel like myself and I was crying daily. After speaking with a doctor she has diagnosed me with Post Natal depression. I spoke to babies daddy explaining I had been diagnosed with PND to which he replied that it is just an excuse, that I’m using that as an excuse for being so different after birth and that he doesn’t want to come back to us.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for by writing this post, but guess it’s just some fellow mums advice.
Right now I’m keeping strong for my boy, but I’m hurting too so much. Dealing with PND, a break up and having a new born.
Any advice......?
Thank you.

Sounds like your (ex) partner is a dick. I’m sorry about your PND and assure you things do get better. I bet your partner wasn’t helping you out much anyway with a stinking attitude like that. Do either of you have any family or friends local to you?

He wasn’t helping much!! When baby arrived he seemed to find any excuse to be out of the house, a 13 hour bike ride with his friend.
I explained how I felt in myself but he just didn’t understand.
He said the PND is just an excuse.
Now he has left, and I just feel so alone.
I have lots of great support from family and friends yes.
Thank you for your reply x

Although it's difficult at the moment with covid etc. Try and meet other mummies, join up for groups (inc zoom sessions). Sounds difficult for you. Reach out to loved ones who can help.

Oh I'm so sorry that you're going through this, as if life isn't hard enough 😞
Has your go referred you for any help to tackle your PND? If not then please contact them again! It's a real illness and something you should be getting lots of support with! You need to look for support in the right places though. Your ex isn't going to support you, he won't help you feel any better. I'm so sorry if that sounds abrupt, but accepting that is going to help you in the long run. My husband and I were together for 8 years. We have a DS1 who is 3.5 and a 14 week old baby. He walked out on me after 1 year of marriage, completely out of the blue when I was 24 weeks pregnant. He has manipulated me, left me in debt, tried to control me with emotional and finical abuse and what's even worse I can't get away from him as we share 2 children. It's been so tough and I hit rock bottom many times.... but looking back now I have realised that because he's treated me so badly, he's made it so much easier to accept that he isn't in my life romantically and I'm at peace with that.
You will take lots of steps forward and backwards until one day you take a big leap in front and you probably won't even realise it but you will and you'll be stronger for it. What you're going through is so so so tough, but it doesn't define you. Your illness, your recovery, the way your ex treats you does not define you as a person.
Please feel free to talk, rant, repeat as much as you need to on here if it helps you ❤️ It will get better!

Hey, reading your message trust me i feel the same most days. I'm a single mum of a hard work, tantrum lover, attitude giver, pushing mums buttons goer but gorgeous funny little 2 year old girl.
I have just signed on this today feeling I'm the worse mum too. Moving back with my parents after being married for 5 years and things not working out. I'm struggling big time as I don't know what I'm doing where I am going and how I'm feeling about anything. I feel I'm not doing a good job whatsoever and also feel my daughter is better off with another family instead of an idiot person like me.
All I can say is hang in there, breathe, cry but also love yourself again. You are doing a good job despite the fact you feel you aren't.. it's not easy at all but don't give up on him cause he does love you just he doesn't understand just like my little one doesn't understand why they feel the stress, worry, upset and hurt in you and they way we act round then when we feel like giving up and exhausted and emotionally exhausted. You can do this ok.. just say mummy will be ok and I'm here. Every baby needs their mummy and you are there just got to believe in yourself and say I can do this.. you will still have days where you feel like giving up etc but keep at it and show that baby as much love and support and try and destress yourself from all your worries from feeling like your a bad mum cause your not ok. I'm here if you need support. Big hug everything will be ok just us mums who are struggling just got to keep at it and show ourselves we are better than this. Take care x

He sounds dreadful, you're better off without him. Now you can give all your love to your gorgeous baby.