Feeling a bit sad and a,couple of questions

[Rosebel]

Does your baby go to sleep on you? My baby will sometimes settle in his basket especially for his,dad but usually has to be cuddled to sleep. My other two were easy to settle but he will scream until I cuddle him. He's only 2 and a half weeks old and was born early (due yesterday) so don't know if that makes a difference.
I.don't.mind cuddling him now but am I creating problems down the line!
I also feel like my son prefers his dad to me. He feeds better for his dad (I hate the fact he's formula fed but we were advised to by the hospital as he lost so much weight). In the morning we often put him in bed for a cuddle but my son will always snuggle up to dad and usually cries if dad has to get up. The only time my son settles on me is to sleep. The rest of the time I might as well not be here.
It doesn't help that my eldest is very much a,daddy's girl too.I can't help wondering what I did wrong. Or maybe my son is bored of me as we were in hospital mostly alone for 5 days. It's not going to get any better as,my husband is back at work Monday so my poor little boy will be even more fed up of me.
Does your baby have a favourite parent? How do you feel if it's not you? And should I let him sleep on me? Or stop now before it becomes a habit?

Please don't worry about creating problems by letting him sleep on you, he's so little and just wants to be close. And also, don't feel at all bad for giving formula, if baby is doing well on it then that's all that matters. At an nct class we were told babies often are calmer with dad at first because being near mum gets them excited. Congratulations on your new arrival!

My son slept on me or in his bouncy chair alot of the time until he was 10 months. He is nearly 18 months now and sleeps in his cot for his nap and night time with no problems

Being close to you like that actually helps them develop confidence and less likely to become clingy.
I don't think your baby could possibly be bored of you! Sounds like you need to relax and go with the flow. You being relaxed will help baby relax.

You are absolutely not creating problems. All your baby has ever known is you. Your warm, your heartbeat, your rhythm. The world is a big scary place for him at the minute so he wants what he knows. Not easy with another child as well but take all the cuddles and snuggles you can. Have a look at information around the fourth trimester. Research suggests those babies who have their needs met and form secure attachments early in become more confident and independent toddlers. If you’re struggling to get things done looking after your other child too look into a sling library and hire stretchy wrap to pop your baby in. Helps to mimic the feelings in the womb but leaves your hands free!

Congratulations

Thanks for the replies. I should know better than to listen to my MIL, especially as according to her my parenting is always wrong. I love our cuddles but then she said I'm spoiling our baby and creating problems. My husband says to ignore her and w have gone low,contact with her but she still the ability to make me doubt myself.

There's literally posters in the toilets of my antenatal department at the hospital saying "you cannot spoil a baby - don't let anybody tell you otherwise".

My daughter did nothing BUT sleep on me. I was permanently pinned to the sofa underneath her, for hours haha. Then at 4 months old she decided she didn't want that anymore. She's 6 months now and will occasionally still fall to sleep on me, but it's sooo rare.

Remember, your baby has spent nine months floating around naked in fluid, sleeping when he wants, lovely and warm! This is all new to him. He doesn't know what a bed is. Look up the fourth trimester. Of course he's going to want to snuggle to sleep on you and that's ok.

My daughter sometimes prefers me, or my husband. It is likely to be an external reason that you've not even thought of... something as simple as body heat for example. Hormones making you warm? Husband is cooler? Or the other way round. It might be how he holds him, or just the feel of his jumper on the skin vs your jumper! It maybe a shampoo/deodorant you use that's a bit perfumed?

It will literally be anything other than something you've done wrong, honestly x

I have also heard/seen/been told you cannot spoil a baby with cuddles etc. Let your baby sleep on you if that's what baby wants. I wish I had done it more because my little one is now 6 months old and he doesn't sleep on me much at all now! Enjoy the cuddles. I also don't think they will prefer one parent over the other at that age x

I do love our cuddles and I'm aware that at some stage he won't want that anymore but then I get MIL telling me to settle baby in his,basket of he'll never sleep alone and to that I'm ruining him with cuddles. I don't know why I listen to her.
I've been quite anxious this time and I know I need to relax but it's hard when you can't go out or see people.