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High needs baby - when will it end?!?!

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SidSparrow · 11/05/2020 11:39

DD2 is 3 and a half months old and has me at my wits end!! She is rarely content when in her bouncer, or on her playmat. Taking her out is a nightmare! She is not content in her pram unless she is sleeping and she doesn't sleep long... Same in the car seat. I know there is nothing wrong with her - she just wants to be held. I have two carriers - one she hates, the other maybe gives me 10 minutes of contentment if I'm lucky. I'm finding it extremely difficult l, I feel trapped more trapped by her than I do the lockdown! I feel so bad for DD1 who is 2 and acts up a lot because I just can't give her the attention she needs. I grieve the relationship we used to have, and then I feel guilty about it. I feel guilty because I can't give the same attention to DD2 as I did when DD1 was a baby. When we go out I come home a nervous crying wreck because DD2 has woken up and after making sure she's fed and changed etc and is put back in the pram she screams the whole way home. I feel terrible I can't console her when we're out because I can't carry her and push the double buggy.

So, what I really would like to know is a timescale! What are other people's experiences. I'd love to know how long roughly this will last.

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Inpeace · 11/05/2020 11:47

Assuming she isn’t unwell uncomfortable they she may settle when her skills meet her expectations!

She sounds frustrated (like you)

DS was so much happier as soon as he was able to work the infernal jumperoo

Maybe she’s prefer a sling rather than Oran so she is closer to the action and can see more

Inpeace · 11/05/2020 11:47

*pram

Feeling83 · 11/05/2020 12:38

She sounds like my DS who is almost 5 months old. He would not stay in pushchair for more than 5 minutes without screaming, same with every car journey, wouldn’t go in the sling or take a bottle at all (is BF). At 4.5 months this has all changed and he is quite happy with all of these things now so I think maybe it’s a developmental thing with some babies and just takes time!

TinySleepThief · 11/05/2020 12:43

We are eventually seeing a light at the end of the very long tunnel at 5 and 1/2 months. The turning point seems to have been learning to sit up independently.

I genuinely believe some babies just hate being babies and not able to do things for themselves. I know its hard but there is an end I promise!!

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