Hi! I am looking for some info/advice. I have a 1 year old, and the 'second baby' discussions are starting between me and DH. However, I suffered quite badly with PND and Post Natal Psychosis after my first. I went to the GP 10 weeks after having my girl, but by that point it had got pretty bad (I was convinced everyone, including my husband, could hurt my baby so I had to protect her). I was referred to the mental health team and received a phone call at about 12 weeks, but I refused any other help as I wanted to tackle it myself. By 16 weeks I felt a lot better, but even now things still creep in but I manage it as best I can.
My sister is a nurse and said the other night that as I had it bad after the first baby, I would probably be given a mental health midwife second time around and be on some sort of 'watch list'. She gave the impression this was more of a 'we have to watch you because you are a looney' rather than 'we are here to support you'. My Health Visitor after my birth was a main cause of my PND to be honest (her 8 week visit was like the spanish inquisition). After that I just avoided HV at all costs. The thought of being watched freaks me out big time, like I am not mentally stable enough to be trusted to have any more kids. I also have no support network except my husband as my family live abroad, which the HV and the mental health team didnt like either.
Anyway, I just wondered if anyone has gone through a second pregnancy after PND on the first, and what was put in place during and after pregnancy? Did you feel supported? Did you feel watched? I really want a second kid, but I feel quite scared of what may happen.