To give up breastfeeding?

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Thinking of throwing the towel in. Second child, 1st I mixed fed until 6 months. 2nd child is currently just over 4 weeks.

He is not a settled baby. He has three different states, sleeping, crying and feeding. There has been the occasional 20 minutes where he has been awake and not crying but that is it, I'm not exaggerating. He wants to be on my boobs constantly when he is awake or semi awake. For hours on end. I have been engorged, had mastitis and blocked ducks and extremely painful breasts since the day he was born and it is making me miserable. My nipples have bled where they have been cracked. They have blistered. There is nothing wrong with his latch he just constantly wants feeding/comfort. My supply seems okay, if he leaves a gap between feeds I can feel I'm full and let down is quick and surprisingly fast. Checked by doctors/midwives/health visitors - position and latch is fine he is just on them too frequently. If I remove him he screams and screams and absolutely nothing consoles him and I can't take it any more. Won't take a dummy. Struggles to take a bottle and cries for boobs straight after. Partner works long days and I'm averaging about 5-6 hours sleep between 9-6:30 co sleeping which I hate, but I have to breastfeed him to sleep as he wont be put down in a Moses basket or crib. I have a two year old daughter I am neglecting, and I am so so so fed up of being tied down feeding constantly. The only thing stopping me is believing that if I stopped breastfeeding there is a chance the screaming will continue with bottle feeding, and I won't even get the calm periods when he's comfort sucking/feeding.

What has happened since yesterday

'Bed' at 9:30, fed a bottle, breast for sleep
Woke up at 11:30, fed for an hour
Woke up at 2:30, fed for 2 hours
Woke up at 5:15 fed for 45 minutes
6:45 did wakes up so baby gets up with me, fed for 30 minutes
8:45 feed for 40 minutes
10:15 feed for 45 minutes
2:15 feed for 15 minutes
4:30 - 9:30 pretty much feeding consistently, half asleep but screams the house down if removed from me. Currently being fed a bottle by partner, he'll drink about 100ml no issue so obviously not full from me, but my breasts just feel empty and sore after so long feeding.

Both mine and partners mums and families keep encouraging me to give up breastfeeding. Bottle fed mum friends assure me if I made the switch he'd be more content and full and happier. Is this likely? I don't know what to think. I'm obviously not satisfying him as he can take a 100ml bottle after hours feeding, and I know I'm meant to feed him as frequently as he wants to build supply but surely there is a limit? It wasn't like this before. I'm not sure what I'm asking, advice for a calmer more settled baby - what am I doing wrong I'm at my wits end

Hi im breast feeding my baby is 7wks this week she has been more settled than before a bit like your baby she was feeding every 2hrs using my boob as a dummy for comfort.my milk just started coming in alot more this week so my baby is feeding for a shorter time ,before it was upto a hour & now its 15-30mins so much better.
Its upto u what u do maybe try a few more weeks but if u dont want to then switch to bottle.
I also had bleeding nipples on wk 2 its very painful ,get some nipple cream to help u.

if your getting mastitis and blocked ducts it means their not sucking them properly.They maybe latching but obviously they are only getting a small amount of milk meaning your breasts are never fully emptied thus the mastitis .

I was in a similar spot to you but when i noticed my breasts were not being drained i used a breast pump and massaged my breasts to prevent mastitis .

I tried for 6 weeks to no avail my daughter could not seem to get it right.I was told she was sucking fine but for what ever reason she could not feed very well.She was doing the exact things yours is doing.

As i felt guilty i pumped three times a day so at least my daughter got my milk for a few months.But this takes 30mins one side then 30 mins next and back to first for 20mins wile massaging. I eventually switched to kendamil which was fine.

But as soon as i switched to bottles of expressed milk and a bit of infacol she gradually slipped into a routine of feeding every 2 and a half.Its your choice but when i was in your situation i am glad i swapped