How to associate baby with me being nice?

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We are currently looking into whether DS (6 weeks) is dairy free or has colic perhaps as he is very angry on breast, clawing and kicking away and cries a lot. We have also just had a tongue tie corrected. I'm worried that whenever he is on me and trying to feed etc he is crying and must have been in pain with the tongue tie while feeding and so maybe he is going to be associating me with this milk that's making his tummy poorly or frustration etc etc. I don't know what to do to make him happy and am concerned he's not going to associate breast with comfort?

Awww, you poor things! It reminds me of this clip:

How long ago was the tongue tie sorted? I wonder if he's just learnt to associate his mouth being touched with discomfort so he's not forming a good latch? That becomes a vicious circle because then he's hungry, so not in the mood to be 'taught' how to latch well, this in turn will decrease your milk production and so you get a negative spiral.

Will he accept a bottle? If you're not doing already I would try and express after each feed - the early hours ironically being the best time for maximum milk production, so try to pump then at least. I would be tempted to take the edge off his hunger with expressed milk, then offer him the breast after each bottle, and frequently throughout the day, so he's not over hungry and frustrated and you feel less pressured too. If it's not already your 'go-to' position try 'Laid back' breastfeeding. You'll automatically become more relaxed and it's a very natural feeling for the baby too, especially if you're both undressed.

What's his weight like? 6 weeks is typical for a growth spurt so he's likely to be hungrier than usual at the moment anyway. My guess is he's just not getting enough milk and his reaction is down to frustration and hunger. I think it's unlikely to be a dairy allergy if he's not vomiting. You could try cutting dairy out of your diet but you need to stick at it for at least 6 weeks to see if it makes any difference.

I would advise talking to a lactation consultant first anyway. Do you go to any support groups? They can probably point you in the right direction.