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Kentishgal · 13/07/2019 07:06

Here goes...

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Yukka · 16/07/2019 09:58

Hi ladies partially place marking and also looking for opinions! Still on the other thread, due to be induced next Wednesday. Been having acupuncture to 'prepare' and this morning from 5am had period pains and backache, that's eased now mostly, was constant, not sure if there's a pattern yet. there is a red/pink tinge when I wipe after wee. Is this likely the beginning of a show? Normal discharge had been a bit thicker but not how I understood the plug to look like.

Appreciate you're all busy with new babies! My plan was to monitor for a few hours and if i get worried or things change then phone the midwife/labour line for advice.

Looking forward to joining this thread properly!! X

GiGi18 · 16/07/2019 17:22

Hi @Yukka yes that sounds very much like the beginning of a bloody show. You might have progressed by now as see this message was from this morn! I had contractions for 24 hours before my show. Got the first pink tinge and then within an hour or two some larger mucusy clots. Wasn't expecting it to be so big, was quite disconcerting but I phoned the midwife assessment and they reassured me it was normal. Good luck! Look forward to your news. Xx

Yukka · 16/07/2019 18:44

Thank you @GiGi18 literally just passed the plug now, pains been on and off all day like period and cramps. We'll see what the next day or so brings..., yikes!

RooKangaroo · 16/07/2019 18:59

Gah, I fell off this thread (and the other one) and kept meaning to come back! Hope you're all ok and lovely to hear of the babies born so far.

I'm scheduled in for a section next week, but really hoping baby comes naturally before then. Sod's law will of course dictate that nothing happens until next week....

Good luck to all those still waiting x

Kentishgal · 16/07/2019 20:20

yukka I was going to say that sounds like your plug (my waters were also pink stained with my first though) - exciting - looking fwd to hearing news of baby soon!!

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Yukka · 18/07/2019 19:53

Hi ladies, well we were right, tuesdays bloody show resulted in baby Yukka, born fast and furious at 3:41 this morning weighing 6.15.

It was nuts, given we've spent 9 months planning for a long induction, arrived at hospital at 2am for pain relief, next thing I knew was being rushed to the delivery ward, I was 9cm and needed to push.

Too late for pain relief other than gas and air, but I can say what a hell of an experience, it was animalistic the way my body took over.

I'll catch up with everyone else soon, hope you are all well, not long to go for everyone else xx

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Kentishgal · 18/07/2019 20:05

Aww amazing yukka - congratulations - hope you're both doing well!

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Toria73 · 19/07/2019 01:25

Hi there, just checking in. I’m v aware that it’s been a while, prob over a month, since I was last here but the last 6wks have been a weird cross between manic & Groundhog Day.
Congratulations on the arrival of your wee ones, I hope you are all doing well & all those popped out belly buttons & cats arses are making their way back to normal now or a new version of normal 😉
And now I have to drop off again as that’s one of my teeny terrorists making hungry noises again - the Perfect Prep is the best £90 I’ve ever spent!

StargazyDrifter · 20/07/2019 12:44

Congrats Yukka!

Toria lovely to hear from you. Have the tiny milk terrorists come home yet? I hope you're enjoying the newborn bubble. It's really taken me by surprise how much time I can spend staring at our little daughter.

Belly button is almost back to normal! Though because of the linea nigra mine currently has a browny/yellow bullseye around it now the belly isn't stretched any more. I had to rind the MW to ask, she couldn't stop laughing at me!

Kentishgal · 20/07/2019 13:39

Hello, nice to hear your update toria73! Glad you're enjoying motherhood stargazydrifter - I'm very jealous your belly button is back yo normal (albeit surrounded by a bullseye) - mine is very saggy and wobbly! Baby came up in a rash all over her belly and chest so we took her to the GP yesterday and he said she had a fever and it was probably a virus, but we had a midwife appointment today at the hospital and she saw it so called the paediatric registrar down to look at it - he thinks it's a milk protein allergy so has prescribed her some formula (think that was the final nail in the coffin for my breastfeeding to be honest ...I expressed all bloody day yesterday and still only got 5mls so no great loss to baby) - I'm a little dubious as I still think it might be a virus (and he wasn't 100% sure) but they were very good with her at the hospital and we've got an appointment to review her in 4-6wks.

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Jxtina86 · 20/07/2019 14:16

Congrats @Yukka!

Good to hear updates from everyone. We're a week in and whilst the days are fine, the nights are bloody tough. Astrid loves to cluster feed between 1am and 5am and it's exhausting mentally and physically. I feel very lucky that I've not has any issues with supply and she barely lost any birth weight (And is now gaining) but my mind and nipples are taking a battering. I'm determined to carry on though and hope this passes soon. Think we were lulled into a false sense of security with the early days - she would sleep from 10-midnight, then 1-3 And 4-6 And I could cope with that!

We've not been without drama though - up at a&e yesterday evening as she could barely open her left eye due to all the discharge in it. They've swabbed it to check for infections and given us antibiotic eye drops to give for the next five days. Not nice but they are working and today hardly any discharge and she can open it as wide as the right.

DH goes back to work next Friday and I'm dreading it. The big step out of our front door means you have to slightly lift the pram and my c section recovery kind of restricts me from doing that! Think I'm going to have to dismantle the pram and take out the chassis, followed by the bassinet and then baby...! Hoping Astrid is now above 7lbs when we get her weighed again tomorrow so I can use the baby carrier instead and get out of the house! I'll go insane otherwise...!!

StargazyDrifter · 20/07/2019 16:11

Kentishgal poor little one, that rash in the heat must be annoying for her. Sounds like you're in really good hands. Does the heel prick test pick up things like milk protein issues, I wonder? Good they will keep monitoring!

My BF has been a bit of a disaster. Supply ok even though I lost a lot of blood, but feeding was so so painful after maybe the first feed (on morphine!). It was like needles in the whole boob, or like electricity, not just mild discomfort. Umpteen number of MWs all pressed and pressed me to keep trying, telling me to count to ten etc, over the 4 days in hospital. I was frequently in tears by the end of each of these interventions. Then when I said it was damaging and can we stop, they just collectively shrugged their shoulders and were like "ok well you're on formula now". One even said it's like giving my baby McDonald's. 🙄 But I did have breast milk so bought a double pump and have been expressing about 300 ml AM and 200ish ml PM then bottle feeding that. I'm kind of surprised by how much there is, given that my body was so ill equipped for everything pregnancy related. Problem is it's v time consuming to pump this, takes about 45 mins each time. She regained the 4% of weight she'd lost by day 10 and is now going from strength to strength weight-wise.

Before being discharged from hospital I did insist on a tongue tie appt, which we had w a consultant earlier this week. Consultant said 80% tie, feeding will have been "like being stapled" and no one should have pressed it if they'd looked properly. 🙄 They corrected it on the spot (that was scary and they told me not to watch since I cried for ages after she got her BCG!). She's been great since - no more leakages when bottle feeding and the odd time she's accepted the boob it's not painful at all. But she's understandably not v keen on it any more after only 2 days boob then 3 weeks of bottle. It's harder work for her. I also have a marginal preference for bottle because I can see how much she's taking in and DH can feed her too. We'll keep trying the boob in the evenings but I'm now wondering how much longer I can keep up the pumping w DH back at work. The whole BF drama has been really unpleasant and I've been really knocked by the whole thing, but getting some perspective back again now.

Jxtina completely with you on the nights! We also had some decent ones early on, similar pattern to yours. Now it's a lot more gruelling somehow. Wonder if the sleep deprivation also has a cumulative effect by this point. Have also been watching for the baby carrier weight milestone, which we hit yesterday. Though I'm now quite used to the pram as a walking aid! Good to hear about the eye, everything like that is so scary when they are so tiny.

We've found Ewan the sheep pretty helpful at night, btw. I switch him on towards the end of a night feed then pop her in the cot with abut 10'more mins to go. She seems to mind being put down a bit less that way.

Capybaras · 21/07/2019 04:06

Hi everyone! Baby capy was born in the 14th but just been a bit busy (I'm sure we all have!) to update here!

We spent a few days in hospital so only just getting used to home routine. He's now cluster feeding and it's 4:00 and I still haven't slept. Any tips? This is the second night of this, how long does I typically last for?

Jxtina86 · 21/07/2019 06:10

Congrats @Capybaras!!

I have a similar situation 're the cluster feeding! It's a killer isn't it? I try to get to bed earlier so I can bank some hours before the cluster feeding hours hit. I find the boredom of it makes me more tired so I've taken to watching stuff on my tablet to keep me alert. I also let Astrid fall asleep on me and give her a cuddle for as long as possible to give her a chance to settle into a deep sleep before putting her down.

MrsC87 · 21/07/2019 07:34

Hey can I join?
I went in to hospital for induction on 3rd July due to having Gestational Diabetes, and after a 7 day wait for a bed on delivery suite, I had my baby boy, Charlie on the 9th July, my Mums Birthday! He weighed 8lb4 and is just gorgeous! Labour was pretty positive with it lasting 8hrs 50. Natural birth but I did suffer a second degree tear.
Settled in at home now and loving every minute 💙

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Kentishgal · 21/07/2019 07:46

stargazydrifter that's a horrible experience after all you've been through. I can't believe the McDonald's comment - awful. I'm quite a nutrition focused person and so I feel bad enough about feeding my babies formula without comments like that - think I'd have burst into tears. My experience sounds similar - the pain was unbearable- they all seemed to think the latch was fine - but I have inverted nipples and I think sucking them out was making them sore. They were bleeding by the end of the first day and by day three they'd gone green - so gross - by day four I couldnt stand them being touched - she fed for 3 hours and when she came off she was screaming and shoving her hand in her mouth so I packed it in for 3 days then regretted it. But by the time I tried expressing there was nothing left. Now i just don't know whether to try and re-establish (midwife seemed to think my boobs had dried up - charming - nut to be fair the most I've got was less than 10mls) and go dairy free myself, or just give up. My sensible head says give up but my emotional head says I'm letting her down. I told myself I was going to try and get the colostrum out and if I did it'd be a bonus, but now she's actually here and she actually latched I feel like a failure. Urgh - the guilt!

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Kentishgal · 21/07/2019 08:09

Congratulations mrsc87 and capybaras!!

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GiGi18 · 21/07/2019 10:37

Congrats to the newbies! Hope you're enjoying gorgeous new babes.

Im glad to see I'm not alone on the cluster feeding. DD was at it from 1am - 9.30am, I've literally had an hours sleep. How can something so tiny eat so much?! I wouldn't mind so much if it was in the early evening but it's the middle of the night and I find it so so hard to sleep in the day especially when you've always got visitors. Think I'm gonna have to start turning people down soon. Way too much pressure. @Jxtina86 that's a good idea to make sure she's in a deep sleep first. I will try that tonight. I'm just so terrified I'll fall asleep on her.

StargazyDrifter · 21/07/2019 11:47

Kentishgal sorry to read all that, and that's exactly how I feel too. ☹️ I think a lot to half-arsed stuff is said about latch etc by people who don't think of the whole picture and the mother's wider situation. A lot of them also contradict one another! It's damaging and wrong.

I'm not sure it is too late on the breast milk, you know, if you were keen - my (v limited) understanding is if you drive up demand, e.g. with expressing even if empty for a day or two, then the milk will come back to meet that demand. The bigger q is whether you can face the emotional pain of it all again. It's no joke and really clouds everything in my experience, so I wouldn't take that side of things lightly.

The inverted nipples sound really hard work. Is expressing an option, if you can get the milk supply back? I've found the electric pump to have much gentler settings than the baby! 🙈 I also sort of massage the boob downwards when the pump is on to help it.

Or I've also seen recommended a FF then topped up with breast so the baby isn't so vigorous on the boob - though I never managed that, too painful.

Ultimately though, my rational head also says give up slowly. It's only one of many things that will influence the baby as they grow; in the scheme of things it's a small factor and a happy mummy/baby are more important. That said, my emotional head is rattling off all the things from La Lache League and I can't stop feeling shit about it. Sending you lots of hugs.xxxx

Kentishgal · 21/07/2019 12:19

Thank you stargazydrifter - hugs likewise - I swore I wouldn't get hung up on BF at all after last time, and I'm not really stressing about it but there is a bit if a nagging mum guilt, which I expect is fuelled entirely by comments like the ones you've had! Actually, the midwives ive come across have all been great (the lactation person at the hospital was a bit more pushy). Like you, I thought it could he re-established by sort of supply and demand - midwife says to express for 20 mins every 2 hours even if nothing is coming out but she said sometimes it just doesn't work. I'm taking fenugreek and eating lots of oats!! I think my boobs are just a bit rubbish!!! I thought I would just top up I the formula feeds by expressing anything I could (like a supplement / tonic!) But think allergy aspect has thrown me a bit (also wondering if I've caused it by taking all those bloody antibiotics in pregnancy)! Also the hypoallergenic formula doesn't have long life options so thought BF would be useful from the perspective! Think I'll give it a go and if I can't get a decent amount I'll give up! It sounds like you're getting a decent supply, but if its causing pain and stress then it makes things very difficult. As you say, there are so many other aspects that contribute to a child's development. Sorry for the long post!!

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StargazyDrifter · 21/07/2019 12:45

Kentishgal I'm pretty sure you didn't cause the intolerance stuff with antibiotics. They were essential for you and the baby at any rate. That's definitely not one for the mum-guilt playlist! Then mum-guilt is immense though.

I have also been told to do 20 mins every 2-3 hours but not a lot comes out until 25-30 mins in which is why I do 45 min pumps. I seem to have slow-starting boobs! Perhaps because I use the least vigorous setting. Maybe see if doing it a bit longer helps?

I've given myself one more day to research everything BF related when the baby is napping and I will then just get it out of my system hopefully.

Kentishgal · 21/07/2019 14:24

stargazydrifter - snap - exactly the same - nothing comes out till 20 mins in so I always do about 45mins - 1hr too!! My daughter just said "mummy can I have a drink please when you've finished "humping""😂 hope she doesn't tell people at nursery that her mummy is always busy humping!

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StargazyDrifter · 21/07/2019 14:56

😂😂😂

"Mummy likes to hump, mummy spends an hour humping most mornings"

Kentishgal · 21/07/2019 15:53

Quite!!

Mummy humps every 2-3 hrs these days!

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Giraffe888 · 23/07/2019 23:44

Sorry I’ve not updated!

Our beautiful boy Jude Daniel was born by ELCS on 19/7/2019 at 9.07am weighing 7lb 3oz. We are so in love with him 🥰

The c section wasn’t completely straightforward due to my low lying placenta. I lost a lot of blood and my uterus wouldn’t stop contracting so they put a balloon inside me to get it to stop and to stop the blood loss. I was then put on a special care ward for extra monitoring.

They removed the balloon 24 hours later and the bleeding had thankfully stopped. We were allowed home on Sunday afternoon. I’m feeling better than I thought I would after caesarean!

Jude sleeps great during the day but not at night. I’m breastfeeding so I’m shattered as I’m getting no more than 2 hours sleep. Sleeping when he does in the day hasn’t worked yet due to visitors or us being out!

Midwife came yesterday and was happy. He’d lost 5% of his birth weight. Seeing her again tomorrow and he’ll have the heel prick which I’m dreading!

We’re sleeping downstairs tonight as it’s far too hot in our room x

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