10 week old in own room

[MummyOf1Boy]

Hi all,

My LO is 10 and a half weeks old. He usually sleeps next to me in his crib and i put him up between 6.30-8 after his bottle and have monitors on until i go to bed.

Tonight though ive put him in his own room as my room is very bright and noisy as its at the front of the house. When i put him up in our room he just wouldnt settle so on a wim i tried him in his own room and he settled straight down to sleep. His room is very quiet at the back of the house and dark as he has black out curtains.

What are everyones thoughts on this? I know the guidelines are 6 months but he might get a better night sleep were its quiet and dark.

But now im worried ive done the wrong thing 🙈 thoughts please xx

The reason for the 6-month room-sharing guideline is that the SIDS risk is higher for babies sleeping alone. www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/room-sharing/ (Monitors don't make a difference, it's about sharing a room with an adult.)

SIDS is still a small risk though and there are other things you can do to keep the risk low (back to sleep, firm surface, no smoking in the house etc). So it's up to you to balance the very small increased chance of a very bad outcome on this particular thing.

Can you sleep in his room too so it's not dangerous for SIDS?

Plenty of us did it with no ill effects at all and if I had another baby I would do it again
However, it IS against the guidelines and there must be good reasons for that.

I did with mine OP purely because I was so anxious I couldn't sleep. My DD was sleeping soundly I was watching her and listening to every snuffle. Own room in cot, sensibly dressed with door open and decent monitor on. She continued to sleep well and I was grateful for the distance..not the 'right' thing but very much right for me.

Im the same mayhemmumma - i constantly check all night if hes still breathing and not too cold or hot.

My first LO was in his own room at 10 weeks simply because he was too big for the moses basket and didnt like it anyway.

But with this LO i feel as if hes too small to go in his own room and panic about everything - such as SIDS - as i had a traumatic birth and were both lucky to be here so im finding myself much more anxious about everything this time round.

Think i might put him back in my room when i go up to bed.

Thanks for all the advice ladies xx

Personal choice I guess but I wouldn't risk it.

Does anyone here know why sharing a room up until six months even for day time nap reduces the risk of SIDS?

Nobody knows, but there's a good statistical correlation which is why it's recommended.

I thought "they" did know, though? It's got to do with the fact that humans sleeping in rooms together stir occasionally and make noise through the night which brings the baby up from a deep sleep reminding them to breathe.

www.isisonline.org.uk/hcp/where_babies_sleep/room-sharing/

i put my last two babies in the room just across the hall from about that age, and left doors open, because otherwise i was waking up every single time they snuffled. Im a light sleeper, and could quite often not get back to sleep and was going a bit mad. It was better in the other room. I heard them if they cried, but not if they just moved around or murmured. My first baby I co-slept for more than 2 years and i really didnt want to get into that again too much, so only coslept with the other two a few weeks