FOR LAUGHALOT
about the bad night. Obv, I am a first time mum but I firmly believe in putting them down awake (IMO) and Jacob is settling really well now at night after a tough couple of nights. I literally put him down with his dummy, he inevitably cries but I shush him until he is calm then go out. I hang around upstairs and if he starts to cry I go back in, put dummy back in and shush again. I continue this until all is quiet. Usually takes about 15 mins but sometimes half hour. It takes a lot of effort not to pick him up. Dr Ferber and Baby Whisperer say, which makes sense to me, if you put your baby down asleep, when they wake in the night they find it difficult to settle on their own because they are used to you holding them until they are asleep, hence why they should learn to settle themselves.
Dr Ferber likens it to having your pillow stolen in the night - if you woke up and your pillow was missing you wouldn't be able to get back to sleep and would get up and look for it, prob put light on to find it and generally be p*ssed off. I suppose if a baby is put down asleep and then wakes off it wants mum to get it back to sleep. Makes sense to me but I suppose it does depend on the type of baby.
This is just my opinion though and gives you a balanced view from the two opposite ends of the spectrum i.e. Jodie and me (no offence meant Jodie but I think we realise we do things differently ).
As for naps, J sleeps in his bouncy chair somewhere quiet during the day and has 40 mins at approx 8.30am, 12.30pm and 4.30pm.
I would keep Lauren in her cot personally cos she will soon outgrow the moses basket so you may as well persevere witht he cot than putting it off for another couple of weeks cos at some point you will need to do it.
Do you have a nightlight? I have one on my monitor for Jacob as I like to think if he wakes in the night there is a little bit of light for him. I don't think it will be a problem when he gets older and if it is then I will just put a plug in night light in his room.
I also have a 'raggie' that I snuggle next to his cheek at night which he likes.
HTH!!!!!!!!!
(sorry for the essay everyone - please don't start debating this cos it is just my opinion but works for me)