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June 2013: Here come the terrible twos!

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HungryHorace · 18/05/2015 17:26

New thread. :-)

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Sunbeam18 · 28/07/2015 12:37

You are brave, Bean. I try to avoid shops even with one child. Or just go straight in and out to get something without releasing him. I can only envision coping with more than one out of the house in a 'safe' padded cell environment like soft play or a play cafe. Unhelpful, I guess!

Mrs81 · 28/07/2015 14:51

I've never done so much internet shopping in my life as I have since DS came along! But unless all children are contained in a pram or a sling or a trolley then I don't see how it is possible. Maybe there's a secret trick bribery? though Grin

BeanCalledPickle · 28/07/2015 15:33

You will have a bigger age gap though sunny. Lily should be more manageable at that point! Soft play isn't an option as she is always getting herself stuck in bits for kids three times her age!

SunnyL · 28/07/2015 17:05

actually she is pretty good when we go shopping as I hide from her if she wanders off just a little. this means she's always on the look out for where mummy is. It's a trick my mum taught me - FYI my mum is a dog trainer!

SunnyL · 28/07/2015 17:07

oh also I got that potty training book and think she's ready to start so bought a new potty and up - high (Lilyism for a step). She's just walked in the door whipped off her nappy and sat on the potty. haven't even bought the stickers yet!

Mrs81 · 28/07/2015 18:07

It must be a pretty magical book!

Mini rant: last two days that I've collected ds from nursery he's immediately given me a snuggly/slightly peelywally cuddle. Which is fine - he's tired, end of the day etc etc. The same nursery worker says to him 'oh are you being a sook?' (sp?? 'sook' may be a Scottishism, dunno) But she says it as if to imply he's chancing his arm getting a hug. He's 2 ffs!!!

cuphat · 28/07/2015 18:09

Reins, bean. Or DD stays in the pushchair.

I'm on my own with the two of them for three full days. It'll be fun, especially at bath time!

I've been reading that potty training book. It's good, although we can't go ahead with the proper training until I've had the chance to make a reward chart - any excuse Grin

BeanCalledPickle · 28/07/2015 19:52

Bath time I've got down. And really does the baby need a bath? Not every day I reckon. Reins not an option. Hates them!

Raeside · 28/07/2015 20:01

Mrs I'm not sure of the Scottush meaning but we use sook in Australia, eg: when Joe wakes up after a nap he's often a bit whiny/cuddly/never pleased - and I say 'oh are you being a sooky-la-la?' A sook is a bit of a whingey whingey person....

Mrs81 · 28/07/2015 21:14

Hmmm. I think the Scottish meaning is a bit different (fellow Scots...help me out here??)

I understand it to mean an insincere befriending of someone, often with an ulterior motive. Basically a whole lot of social interaction that a toddler has no concept of!

cuphat · 28/07/2015 21:31

DH gives DD a bath everyday, when he's at home. DS tends to want to be fed at the same time. As happened today! We don't bathe DS everyday, yet. But I normally have a longish relaxing bath every evening while DH looks after DS. It's essential for my wellbeing after dealing with them during the day, and for soaking my problem boobs. Didn't happen today!

Sunbeam18 · 28/07/2015 22:14

Mrs, yep, know that meaning of 'sook'. Its def a Scottish word. I've never heard it used in relation to a parent; I've usually heard it in relation to a pupil-teacher relationship (eg sooking up to the teacher). Inappropriate thing for someone doing childcare to say to a parent, I'd say.

RueDeWakening · 28/07/2015 23:30

Bean - could you use the backpack reins? We have some like these except ours are a giraffe. M loves them! And yet hated the standard reins with a passion.

I managed to get out of the house with all 3 in tow today, was quite impressed with myself. Took till 2pm to actually get clothes on them all, mind :o but quick trip to pharmacy, bank, charity shop bribery, library, cafe which was closed so we hit Greggs instead and back home.

Bathtime in our house is delegated to DH, it's rare I get involved till M needs dressing while the other 2 are still attempting to drown each other.

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HungryHorace · 29/07/2015 07:19

DD will sometimes wear reins and sometimes won't. It's all a bit hit and miss. Like she'll sometimes sit in a shopping trolley and sometimes won't. And sometimes sit in a buggy and sometimes mostly won't. (Does anybody see a theme here?!)

Bath time is every other night here, unless DD asks for one in which case it's more often. They both love the bath and splash like loons! DH did used to do them during the day (he also goes out with both of them a fair bit) but it's a post-dinner thing now.

DD's really whingey right now because of her last 4 molars coming through. It's really frustrating as she's so hard to please. Age 2 is all fun and games, isn't it?!

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cuphat · 29/07/2015 08:58

I've said before, but DD has puppy reins that she actually asks to wear - she wants to wear them in the house sometimes (obviously I take the strap off so it's just a backpack)!

Bath time is at 6.30pm here, just before bedtime at 7pm.

DD has her last few teeth coming through, but now she can vocalise her feelings to us it isn't affecting her moods or sleep etc. She just tells us her teeth hurt, we give her some teething stuff and she doesn't mention it again.

Oh and age 2 is fun and games (though we're lucky really as she just has her odd moments compared to other children her age that I know!). I'm glad we didn't leave no2 any longer!

SunnyL · 29/07/2015 11:12

4.50am this morning. WT actual F??

BeanCalledPickle · 29/07/2015 11:54

If I had both on my own all day I'd need more than a long bath! I was out yesterday with just the baby trawling coffee shops for friends; you'd be amazed how easy it is to pick up bored mums looking for friends! There was this one girl just about to head out on a twilight walk with the baby and I was so jealous of her not needing to go and get a big one and do battle with baths etc. I agree with HH that it's the unpredictable nature of the big one which makes it hard!

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HungryHorace · 29/07/2015 12:31

It becomes even more fun when they're both walking. It's not utter chaos at all!

I admire DH for being able to cope all day every day with them. I couldn't do it!

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cuphat · 29/07/2015 13:09

I normally look forward to DH's arrival home from work each day so it feels a bit bleak to know that he's not coming back to relieve me for a bit. Hats off to all the single mothers out there - I'd be a mess! I sometimes struggle with first thing in the mornings too when he's away as of course they often wake up at the same time! Run downstairs to get DD some milk to keep her happy for a bit, feed the cats before they cause some damage then run up to feed DS. I honestly feel grateful at the end of every day when they're both still in one piece as DD is determined to pick DS up, cover him with stuff, cuddle him a bit too tight etc!

BeanCalledPickle · 29/07/2015 14:15

Everyone fed, no one dead:)

Raeside · 29/07/2015 16:43

Oh god you guys are scaring me.

BeanCalledPickle · 29/07/2015 18:27

When it's your turn will you be on your own with both much of the time? That's the hard bit. But you will find a way. I think two is pretty common and most of the time everyone survives:)

Raeside · 29/07/2015 19:21

Yes but now I'm out more than I'm in so was hoping to continue that after the first six weeks....think the gym crèche takes them from six weeks. I'll Make Plans. And might fly mum over from Oz for a few weeks.....

SunnyL · 29/07/2015 20:36

Last time DH went back to work at 2 weeks and went straight onto nightshift. That was a fucker of a week.

BeanCalledPickle · 29/07/2015 20:55

The problem with leaving them early is that they always sodding need something. Will the gym crèche change the never ending nappies and feed them? The one near here won't do any of that; 'we are not a nursery' so I can't do that. And if breastfeeding it's even more tricky. I think that's what I find most difficult about babies; one or two. It's the having a person be so dependant on me and be so in need of attention all the time. And be so disgusting. I have had to change my top twice for vom and she's poonami'd an entire outfit as well as been sick on three sets of clothes. I'm so utterly sick of sick.