September 14 babies - bring on the weaning!

[KitKat1985]

New thread for the Sept 14 babies. :)

Applied for passport for ds last Tuesday , got it yesterday. Not bad.

Just spent 10 quids on amazon on sensory toys, bought 6 wooden musical things :D can't wait for them to arrive.

Holls yes to looking at you waiting for congrats.

Nazly - I just looked that story up, apparently it's a hoax. I don't think it's physically possible! The picture they used was of a very big baby (17.5lbs) born a few years ago in Russia. No idea why it started circulating!

Congrats on house news holls!

Doing the in-laws on my own is something of a mixed blessing. DH hasn't been getting on with them, so in some ways its easier/less stressful to do alone. Plus they cooked a meal for me. So plonk DS in the car for 45mins when he's due his nap, drive there, be polite, eat, plonk him back in the car when he's due another nap. Jobs a good 'un! Downside is having to listen to MIL going on about how BIL walked early. She does not remember when DH walked. Which pretty much sums up the family dynamic really.

The interesting thing is I thought DS would forever be compared to his cousin. Not so. He's been compared to his Golden Balls Uncle. Which is really weird. It would be so nice if DS could out shine Golden Balls with the walking... for DH's sake as well as DS's. I feel for DS's cousin being a girl now. I don't think MIL sees her on the same playing field as her father.

DH being away is also a mixed blessing. I'm used to him being out in the evening 2 - 3 times a week anyway. But with him being away for the night, it means I can go to bed at 6pm when I get back from the in-laws and chill and eat dinner and watch telly there! DS has just fallen asleep so I may well have an early one as DH doesn't tend to. Plus its easier in someways to do nightfeeds and changes without having to tip toe around or worry about waking up DH. Its a bit of a slob weekend. I wouldn't like to do it all the time, but as a one off its not too bad. Trouble is, he's away next weekend too which really does suck.

Yeah Holls on having your house offers accepted! That's fantastic. We moved when DC2 was a baby. They tell you it's stressful but honestly, it wasn't. Really exciting to move, are you going somewhere bigger?

All that competition in your extended family sounds very ungraceful Red. My Mum and I often talk about my children and my brothers children in a compare and contrast kind of way. But it is never in a competitive way. Children excel in different ways.

When children walk has no bearing on anything. My DC1 was walking at 7 months, DC2 and DC3 both were 11 months. That does not mean DC1 is any better than her brothers! It has no bearing on their development as they got older.

According to MIL, 9 months is the very earliest babies can walk.

I could go on... It all comes down to how wonderful and amazing her eldest son is. DH has probably done more really too. But it doesn't register on her scale of worthiness. I've done some pretty cool shit too, but nothing compares to her eldest...

My parents have heard the stories many times from DH. I think they thought it was a little bit of him just exaggerating or playing the victim.

Until the 2nd day I was in hospital with DS and she came to visit. And did nothing but talk about how wonderful her eldest was, and not a single word about how great her second son who had just become a father. My parents were stunned by it.

Its incredibly unhealthy and has caused a rift in the past. We didn't tell the in-laws I was pregnant until we were busted. DH would probably like to go NC again, but he wants to have a relationship with his SIL and Niece (of the Golden Balls). He's not so bothered about his brother. But I don't think he realises how unviable that's going to be. Its been hard enough dealing with it all before.

DS is currently fortunate being the only boy grandchild. What happens with future grandchildren could make life more difficult. And I'm concerned about the walking milestone now. It will effect him I think, as stupid as it sounds. If he is before it, he could end up golden child (which isn't good), or put her nose out of joint (again not good) or if he is after then it becomes that he isn't as good as the golden child and is set to follow DH in the family dynamic (obviously not good). Its ridiculous, but this is the way she thinks. And I can't see I positive scenario, given the way she values things. Its worse than comparing DS to his cousin really.

Personally I don't think achieving milestones early is necessarily a good thing anyway. I think it can be something of a poison chalice. It brings its own challenges to be ahead of the curve, just as much as being behind can be worrying. And generally I'm not sure that walking early has much of a baring on your future career prospects or life opportunities!

A good friend wisely has said that by the time they are three they can all walk, talk and eat and no one cares when they did it. Its so true. Apart from my MIL!

There is a family do, in a couple of weeks. I am now dreading it.

According to MIL, 9 months is the very earliest babies can walk

We ended up with a paediatrician referral because DD developed a significant bow in her legs, entirely due to the fact that walking early affected her bone development. First steps were 7 months, confident outdoor walking everywhere by 8 months - this was actually not good for her and definitely not something I brag about.

Comparing is never good or useful and the notion that an early met baby milestones matters is just not true.

Red, just don't buy into your in-laws competitiveness. Your DH and your DS are great - as long as you know that and always tell them so, all will be well

Busy evening but just time to post this for you nazly light projector

Hon thanks so much; thats very cute but very expensive.but Ds is so interested in any light that I am going to look it up in ebay.

Red I agree with Fate, that is really extremely unhealthy; for your dh more than any one and I hope you'll find a way of dealing with it mentally. I guess I could be sensitive, but I would never go visit in lows if all they would talk about would be another child of them; and frankly, I would bring the matter up a few times saying how boring, unhealthy and wrong it is to hear about the older brother all the time , etc. But then I am very un-biritsh in that I can be very, very direct with people, and the consequences of that is not always positive.

It is both lucky and unlucky that my dh does not have any siblings. Unlucky cause the feelings between mother and son is somewhat strong, in a way it could be a pain sometimes;
mil arrives tomorrow and she has not seen ds yet. She will stay with us for a looooooooooooooooong time (!!!), I wonder how it goes this year. Every year she stays with us for a long time, and it bothers me massively but this year to some extent I am looking forward to having her around to help out and perhaps I could start some work. I also love for ds to get some attention from somebody other than his mum and dad.

I knew I forgot sth, lilone you are right, just googled and found 10 sources in first search page saying it was fake. How time changes thing, I read it as soon as published and if you googled then you would find ten pages all saying the same story. Hate to distribute rubbish, sorry about that.

Holls many congratulations ; I hope it works out great for you.
We have a saying which says your right hand behind me (or behind my head) which means hopefully the same thing happens to us... I wonder if there is a british version for that idiom.

Ooh holls congrats on the move, are you going far? You're in Yorkshire like us aren't you? I keep thinking about moving but it doesn't make sense for us for lots of reasons atm so I make do with going on zoopla to nose round houses a lot.

lilone you're right about that monster baby - not physically possible!

Does anyone else's baby shun any and all footwear? Dd is a barefoot baby at all times!

Yes Nazly it's quite pricey you're right, but it was a Christmas gift so not at my expense! There are lots out there though, I'm sure you can find a cheaper version.

holls exciting on the house news! We are also buying a house, but it's the one we live in so no moving for us .

Congrats on the house news Holls.

Apples we've never put Jessica in shoes - it's way too much effort for no reason I think at her age. I actually feel a bit guilty as a couple of people got us newborn shoes when Jessica was born and they are still in their boxes, (but honestly why would anyone bother putting a newborn into shoes)?! x

KitKat sorry I didn't mean shoes (I don't bother with those either), it's more socks I'm thinking of. Dd happily rips them off within seconds. You'd think her feet would freeze but she doesn't seem bothered

Ooh congrats on the house move holls. We'd like to move somewhere a bit bigger ideally but it's just a bit too expensive to be comfortable with. We're going to get a new kitchen and improve our current house instead.

I'm taking Jessica to her swimming lesson today but she will not be put down but is then wiggly and unhappy being held so I don't know how I'll get ready to leave the house!

I gave up on socks most of the time ages ago as DS just pulls them off and slobbers on them! I think he thinks of his feet like his hands though so doesn't mind them cold. He likes to try and pick things up with his feet like a monkey.

We have some Velcro shoes for DS. They are great for going out in, as they keep the socks on! But they need to be Velcro and well fitting otherwise they'd come off too. They look smart so are nice for days when the camera is around rather than just using babygrows. TBH DS is starting to get a little annoyed in babygrows as he can't stretch terribly well and his feet are too big for some so separates or footless all in ones work better.

Nazly, we have a babyway starlight dream cube. It plays white noise and projects stars and a moon on the ceiling. Its probably not as charming as the one mentioned above but we like it. It was a tenner from Morrisons.

For those of you that have started weaning - I tried today with baby rice mixed with ebm, very watery still. He pretty much spat it all out with a disgusted look on his face, but I'm not clear if this means he hasn't lost his tongue reflex thingy or if he just didn't like it? I don't know whether to try with something different or just hold off another few weeks. He's just turned 5 months and was supposed to have started by now to help his reflux. He can almost sit up unaided and does put things to his mouth. Confused

acorn,the first day B had baby rice more went on him than in him. however three days in and he has started swallowing - he had carrot at lunch and then apple with baby rice for supper and munched a lot. persevere perhaps?

Thanks for all nice mesaages about house. moving about a mile, all being well!!

Went out for MIL's birthday lunch today at a very posh hotel. Molly cried loads lol. Spent a big chunk of the time walking her around in her pram. Overstimulated and tired and too much passing her around! They just wander off with her too, it drives me mad.

Shouted at a man on the way back as he insisted on going through the tube barrier that's for wheelchairs and prams when I am clearly standing there with pram. People can be such assholes!

She's happy as Larry now we are home lol.

Ds does well with socks he has never pulled them off and it doesn't seem to matter which brand but they mostly stay on. We have these for outside

They are super cute Cookie, think I might need to get DS a pair too.

We have real problems with socks staying on, spend half the day pulling them up or putting them back on. Going to try 6-9 month socks tomorrow as I think it's actually that they're too small for him now.

Good news about the house Holls, fingers crossed it goes through quickly & smoothly.

Lil I had a silent rage at people using the lift today because they couldn't be bothered to walk the extra 100m to the escalator. They then had the cheek to huff & puff because they had to move up to let me & the pushchair in!

Many congrats on the house news holls!,
DD has never liked her socks. Ever since she was tiny she has this trick of rubbing her feet against one another to take them off. It's quite amazing how quickly this can be successful for her at times (current record is about ten seconds to remove both socks from me putting them on her little feet) I've had to resort to pulling them up so that they're over her footless babygrows to try and keep them on for much longer than a minute or two. I am now making sure all babygrows come with feet!
There are things called Sock Ons a friend of mine was telling me about (she has a 7 month old) that you put on over socks to help interfere with LOs sock removing attempts (from Amazon apparently)
Any sort of soft shoe that I've tried to have her wear also suffers the same fate, so I've sort of given up now.

Weaning: we tried carrot purée over a week ago (twice) and most of it ended up on her face and clothing (now to be dumped as carrot stains seem almost permanent) .
Started again two days ago and she had one cube of purée (minus a mouthful or two). Today I went for two cubes and she was actually getting excited and opening her mouth in anticipation! I'm amazed at how quickly she's adapting! She finished all of it and then still polished off her 7oz bottle!! (Currently her most popular nickname is Chunka Chunka on account of her recent weight gain ) will try baby rice tomorrow.

She still has sleep whimpers but they've calmed somewhat. AwAiting the next bout of myoclonic jerking off DH but hoping I don't get a kicking this time!

DDs first swimming lesson tomorrow! Excited and nervous for her. Hoping she loves it and isn't freaked out by all that water, don't want her to be a poor swimmer like myself

Zanashar - hope swimming goes well!

Topsy - the lift thing drives me mental too! Lifts are so much more hassle than the escalator too!

Random question - have any babies eye colour changed from birth yet? I'm not sure if DD will stay blue eyes or turn to brown.

Sock Ons. Genius. They work.
However they are a complete waste of time as it took me two weeks to loose the pair I was given.
I still haven't found one of them.

I've had DS 'swimming' in the bath with me this week as that's what the paperwork said to try. He's loved it so far. Until he got a mouthful of water. TBH I think he'll like anything that involves moving though.

DS knows what his bottle and my boobs are for now. I can now show them to him and know if he's hungry or not from whether he starts whimpering or not. Its cute.