November 2014 - the one where we all get a good night's sleep

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Here's hoping, anyway...

happy That must be really hard to hear from DC1 but it sounds like you are doing a really good job in a tough situation. I am on my own at the mo with DS and getting dinner for me is hard enough. No advice just big virtual hugs.

DS has worked out today that he can hit the crab dangling on his activity mat on purpose rather than by mistake. It has kept him brilliantly occupied for long periods of time today.

Arghh jabs tomorrow, how bad is the aftermath going to be? At least DP is coming with us so if I cry he will be there to mock me for being a wimp!

Just been having a bit of a life chat with my dad, DPs dad dying so suddenly has just shaken me up more than I thought, I'm so worried about everything that's going to happen, especially as I have to apply for an HA place so the bungalow can be sold. I don't want to do it at all, I'm so scared im going to end up in some horrible mankey flat and won't be able to take my dog who is my whole bloody world. Have managed to get some councilling to help with all my anxiety stuff related to my EA ex so Im hoping I can finaly lay all that to rest and let go or to be honest I doubt I will end up staying with DP

Sorry girls, that was a bit of a rant!

ark jabs here resulted in crying from DS for about 5 mins. That was all. No fever, slightly unsettled but didn't seem in discomfort.
Sorry to hear you're having to move and having doubts about DP but remember you'll always have DD!!!!

Sorry to hear of the hard times happy and ark. So far lo had no obvious fx from first jabs. Leaflet does say that some symptoms can arrive a couple of weeks later tho. Calpol at the ready. lo has been having lots of smiles, laughs and conversation with no one in particular on the ceiling. Seems to be a nightly date lately! Introduced to bubbles and massage at baby session this aft. Liked the bubbles anyway :/

Ark - DD yelled a little bit with her jabs, but it was the rotavirus vaccine (which she liked) that we got side effects from. She's BF so no change in consistency but we had a dramatic increase in volume...

Hoping she'll have hit the 10lb mark at the clinic today.

Busy week this week. Weighing and a visit to my DMs today. First swimming lesson tomorrow and Music lesson on Thursday. She's now quite definitely batting at things now (and crooning at them as well). We had success with an expressed feed as well last night (with me in the room as well). Turns out the first time I'd way overestimated how much she'd need.

2hr round trip to pre-school this morning!! Roadworks had closed 2 bus stops so poor DD1 had walked for 45mins before we found a bus stop we could use. Am now having a sit down with chocolate biscuits, dropping crumbs over DD2 while feeding her. Think I've found a nearer bus stop by heading in the opposite direction. Will try that this afternoon as I can't be doing 2hr roundtrip twice a day 3 days a week.

We have second of jabs tomorrow. Re first set: once she had over the initial shock she was fine until 3 or 4 days later when we had a very miserable weekend which I put down to the jabs. Thursday we have someone from children's centre coming to tell me what They offer there (I thought they had stopped running groups when DD1 was 1). Hope the worker won't mind that DH will have been sleeping in the front room (he doesn't think he will be able to get in and out of bed for a while) and the house might be a mess as I won't have time to tidy and vacuum after getting in from pre-school.

DS is 12 weeks today! Good Lord!

I definately feel like I'm emerging from a cloud.

We have our evenings back for wine, physically I seem to be fine (we are going to try to DTD this week, gulp!) and the baby is going through a happy week.

He hasn't had distress with windiness for days now. Perhaps the GP was right and this Neocate stuff is working? He sleeps much more peacefully at night these days.

I've also decided to put him down every naptime rather than just sit there with him on me. He wakes up after 5 mins if you put him in the cot, so I've compromised with putting him on our big kitchen sofa which is busted soft enough for him to have a good nap on. At least then I can do washing up/laundry etc

I've not gone to a single babygroup. I feel slightly guilty about not doing the "normal" thing, but for an extroverted person I feel awkward as Hell in those environments. I honesly think forcing myself to go would make me stressed and anxious. And its not as if Baby cares!

And I'm amazed I'm saying this, but after two weeks I don't miss breastfeeding AT ALL.

Its lovely in this cold weather never to have to open my top! Brrrrr!

anna great news about your happy week. Don't worry about baby groups. Like you say, he doesn't care. At this age, most people go for the adult company and you aren't looking for that. I haven't been to any either. I once took her to stay n play but that was really for DD1 though the baby seemed to enjoy it too. I'll see on Thursday whether the children's centre has anything as I went to a nice group there with DD1

Well nuk bottle arrived today and have tried it and he sucked it happily wasn't impressed with contents of 50/50 ebm n water as I usually syring that down to help with constipation but def successful bottle it's teat is shaped n hole is at top aiming milk in the same way a breast does so more natural to breast feeding.

Going to order some from ocado as have a 1/3 off at mo.

eastmids interesting. Will have to try and get hold of one.

With baby groups: I enjoy them but it is all for me. He couldn't give two hoots and generally sleeps through them. But most of my friends work Mon - Fri 9-5 so I don't get to see many people unless I go. x

Same here catg, babydolly can only handle 20 mins before needing a sleep but I have to get out of the house. We do 2-3 a week plus babysensory.

Catg going to brave swimming tomorrow. Absolutely bricking it. Got swim nappies and a neoprene wrap thing and going to my local pool. Wish me luck.

I'm rubbish at groups. I'm doing baby bliss Thursday morning while DH gets a lie-in - why oh why did I offer that?! I've not had a lie-in since about September!

Sling wise getting on well with a mei tei that I found for a tenner. Would definitely recommend it!

Annarose2014 glad you're getting some sleep now.

Happypotamus hope DH has a swift recovery and that your visitor was understanding .

I'm usually shy and hate socialising with strangers but haven't felt that way going to baby groups, probably because I have lo as focus even if she does sleep and feed through most of it. It is mainly for me. It breaks up the week a bit and gets us out. I'm interested to pick up tips and advice but you can do that on internet too. I suppose it does help me to feel I'm entertaining her, but that's probably about my lack of confidence. I often worry I'm not entertaining her/aiding her development enough, or wonder if I am and what else I should be doing. Came away from the last group feeling more worried if anything because they were advising stuff that required good head control and when I said lo didn't have that yet they suggested tummy time (which made me think they thought she should have it if I was helping her build it up enough). Just made me feel embarrassed as if everyone thought I was doing it wrong and neglecting lo! I have been doing tummy time but with her on my tummy /chest at about 45 degrees, as when I've tried it any other way it doesn't seem to have been much fun for her and looked too hard. I've been making a point of putting baby down when she sleeps today too AnnaRose. Have managed to do miles more than normal. It makes you get very efficient with how you spend the time doesn't it? It was like a military raid of the kitchen today. Never knowing how much time there is. Shopping with baby is like supermarket sweep!

juulie I might be completely wrong, but I got understand that head control is about 3-4 months. Was told at 6 week appointment that DD had very strong neck muscles, but at 8,5 weeks she cannot control the head completely.

To be completely honest I cannot be bothered with baby groups or meet-ups which are purely on social bases. I will sound as complete nerd, but I'd rather read a book while DD sleeps than venture to meet up with people I don't know if I can get along and if we have anything in common. I have always been "better no company than a bad one". So something like sensory, baby massage or yoga works as motivation - I am doing something for her development works as motivation and if social part happens - great, if not - who cares! It might be because DH works from home a lot, so I have my favorite adult at home, why go out and look for others?! One thing why I oblige going to baby groups is DD seems to be fascinated by other babies. I don't have any friends with babies around here where I live, so the groups is the only way for her to see "little people".

I cannot wait for warm weather to come, so that I can push her in the garden and myself do my gardening projects.

Well DD has had her jabs and a weigh in at clinic. Shes now 12lbs 5 at 8 weeks. And has been asleep since 4 oclock!

Juulie thats why I feel groups might stress me out. I don't want to look at other babies and subconsciously compare mine to them and get worried.

Our lad has had brilliant head control almost from birth when being held (total fluke) but will not tolerate being on his front at all. Therefore we've never done tummy time and probably never will. I don't even know if he can look up from the floor or if he'd just faceplant! And I don't want anyone to pass any remarks about it!

I have to admit I'm just as happy pushing her round with my ipod playing podcasts (almost like adult conversation!) as I am at groups.

How long do your lo's nap for? baby dolly rarely does more than 30mins at a time even on me now even when she's tired.

Weigh in today, at 10.5 weeks she's13.02. Sounds massive but she's steadily dropping percentiles from 99 at birth, 91 at 6 weeks and now 80th. Have been told to eat fatty foods and go back in 2 weeks! Can my calorie intake really make a difference?

Wait, 13lbs at 10 weeks and they want you to chub her up more?? Sounds daft! Do they want her to be a Sumo wrestler?

As long as they're not losing weight I don't see the problem. Seems like a bit of jobsworth-ness to me.

anna I know!! She weighs the same as my friends admittedly tiny 6 month old! Her height was in proportion at 6 weeks but they didn't measure her today. I'm not worried, she's healthy, you only have to look at her chubby cheeks to see that. Its just cos she was so freakishly big at birth!

Cheers for the input on head control Strawb an Anna. Just read my nhs update and it described exactly the stage lo is at so I'll chill! Lady, my lo normally only naps for half hours too. I normally feel really pleased if she naps for an hour. Then out of the blue she slept from 4.30 to 6.30 this eve. Did loads of laundry! Also wasted loads of time online. Well lets call it down time.

DH got back from hospital at about 11.30 last night. He is in a lot of pain, and he cannot get into bed, so I spent quite a while trying to make him comfortable enough in an armchair with about 6 pillows, not sure how successful that was. Went to bed about 1am. DD woke about 10 mins ago, and I have to be getting up in 10 mins anyway to get DDs and I ready to leave at 7.30. However, I left her on the bed for a bit while I was sorting DH out, and she was fast asleep when I came up.it was the first time she had ever fallen asleep without being in physical contact without me. For about a hour until she woke up I could sleep without touching her, which was a nice change. Wish me luck in not dropping dead from exhaustion and in getting to pre-school and back in less than 2hrs!!!

Good luck!

I'm up since 5.30 cos of full boobs. Baby and DH still asleep. I've expressed 2oz and will see if baby will take it from DH while I have a bath.

Anyone else up already?

We were up at 6 for a feed but she wouldn't settle and I was falling asleep on the sofa so bought her into bed with me as DP is at his mums for a couple of nights, I woke up about 10 mins ago but DD is still fast asleep!

Up at about 7 but the effing snuffling and grunting started at 6. She went down at 8.30 though so I can live with that. Bedtime is getting earlier and earlier but so is waking up time...

Although this morning I was rewarded with her rolling over for the first time! It resulted in a bit of a faceplant into the wooden floor but she didn't seem bothered (I may have given a little squeal and run over for a hug - this is an improvement on crying at every milestone so far)