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June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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BeanCalledPickle · 15/08/2014 08:36

New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

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cuphat · 28/04/2015 14:26

The first weeks were painful. But at least we know that passes quite quickly. I'm hoping my nipples are still toughened up from feeding DD!

I also had an episode where I got injured (don't ask!) and DD threw up bloody sick for a few days. Went to see a nurse but they said not to worry about it, which seemed weird. It looked horrifying but apparently it only takes a tiny amount of blood to look bad.

I think DD just needed to suck a lot too. But it's hard to tell and with the early weight loss I was too worried to not let her feed. Also, once she reached her birth weight she stayed on the 91st line so I didn't want to risk changing that.

The cluster feeding was horrendous. I am dreading that. Literally hours in the evening. It did seem to coincide with the wonder week stuff that people posted on this thread. So I will just have to remember that it does pass eventually. And at least DD will be in bed while that goes on.

Most sensible people would give up after getting an abscess. If I get mastitis this time I will demand antibiotics and demand them for the recommended minimum 10 days. I was fobbed off last time, they tried to get me to clear it myself which led to all the problems. I will then consider giving up as I can't risk an abscess again. It required a few hospital visits every week for a month and the hospital is in the middle of nowhere. I can't do that with a baby and toddler! I'm trying preventative methods this time - lecithin and regular massage.

This time I will try to feed confidently in front of other people from the start. I remember my family coming to visit a week after DD was born and I spent most of the time (honestly - she fed a lot!) in another room feeding her as I was so self-conscious. I'm ok with doing it, I just worry too much about what other people think.

I hate baby showers and I hate gift lists (even for weddings - we didn't have one, we didn't ask for anything at all!). What a waste! Will you buy something from it?! I wouldn't!

Mrs81 · 28/04/2015 14:28

That's so sad that your respective antenatal groups have been having a tricky time. Stories like that, and also much closer to home, make me really appreciate what we have.

I had my first broody moment in 22 months last week. It lasted about 20 mins Grin

cuphat · 28/04/2015 14:35

You did so well with the weight loss, hungry!

I have no target for losing weight so I'm quite relaxed about it. Have turned down a free relaxing two week holiday in the sun as it would be around 8 weeks after baby is born. That would have been a good motivator!

I'm not putting so much pressure on myself to bf this time. I'd like to, but there are other priorities this time.

Raeside · 28/04/2015 14:37

When they're tiny I'd suggest baby clothes are best delivered as all-in-ones of appropriate quality and without gag-making slogans on the front. As they get older, however, I've been suit used by how much fun it is to dress them up in cool/smart stuff. By them I mean Joe, obv. I've not been grabbing random kids and clothing them. Not yet, anyway. Zara is amazing, very reliably good quality with toxin-free production and an imperfect but rather better human rights record than most other high street people. Also, top cute designs.....

Obv I go mental on stuff whoever I head home to Australia. Impossible not to. School uniforms will be upon us all too soon, bleurgh.

cuphat · 28/04/2015 14:43

I agree, Rae. I love buying clothes for DD so she has far too many clothes. I rarely buy them for myself any more! But it won't be long before she refuses to wear certain things so I'm making the most if it. She already knows what she wants and is very decisive if I ask her to choose between outfits (or anything).

BeanCalledPickle · 28/04/2015 14:50

I'm mean with clothes! She only wants to wear her t shirts with bloody peppa, or monkey, or duck duck on them. All her other stuff gets abandoned! So I now buy very little. I think hand me downs are a myth. Her stuff gets worn until the knees are worn through and the tomato stains will never come out. I will feel bad subjecting another human to this.

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Raeside · 28/04/2015 18:40

After six months of shitfights with Joe bout brushing his teeth (as opposed to just sucking off the toothpaste and having a chew on the brush) tonight I'm now in trouble for not brushing enough. He's gone full open-jaw and I'm supposed to brush for the whole bathtime. Kids are so weird.

SunnyL · 28/04/2015 20:15

Bean I've told a little white lie about clothes. She thinks everything new in her wardrobe comes from her favourite cousin Grace. Everything and I mean EVERYTHING is Grace's. Grace's dress, Grace's shoes, Grace's tights.

Shitty fucking day here. My brother's wife has been diagnosed with cancer again. This is her 3rd bout and I think they're both scared its the 3rd strike. Cancer can just fuck off.

BeanCalledPickle · 28/04/2015 20:35

That's shit news I'm really sorry. She's inevitably really young with kids etc which just makes it so bloody awful for all concerned. Even if not awful for your family all round.

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Mrs81 · 28/04/2015 20:59

Sunny Sad What a crap thing for you & your family to have to deal with. I hope you all manage to get decent support through such a shitty time. xx

Raeside · 28/04/2015 21:07

Oh Sunny I'm so sorry to hear that....

HungryHorace · 28/04/2015 21:17

I'm sorry to hear that, Sunny.

SunnyL · 28/04/2015 22:06

Yeah its shit. She's 53 but my brother is only 40 and they have a 5 year old. Just praying they've caught it early before its spread.

On a different note - any idea how to keep a nappy on a child overnight? She's so determined to work out clothes including nappies that she takes things off and on. Trouble is she sometimes falls asleep before shes got them back on again. 4 times in the last week shes taken her nappy off and 2of those have ended up with a wet bed. Is duct tape reason for social services to get involved? Sad

Raeside · 28/04/2015 22:12

Pull-ups? Pull-ups and pilchers?

Raeside · 28/04/2015 22:13

(I used to be social services. It depends on what you use it for).

cuphat · 28/04/2015 22:24

Sorry to hear that, sunny.

Sunbeam18 · 28/04/2015 22:40

Sorry your family are having such a rough time, Sunny x

HungryHorace · 29/04/2015 07:09

We've never had a nappy removal issue, but are now using pull ups as she was an utter nightmare with nappy changes.

Her brief stint at wanting to use the loo has come to an end though, so we are letting her just explore the option until the summer when we will attempt to do it properly.

cuphat · 29/04/2015 08:33

DD keeps putting her seat on the toilet and wanting to undress and sit on it, however she doesn't do anything once she's on it. But at least she's getting used to the idea.

Mrs81 · 29/04/2015 09:22

Will L undo a vest with poppers Sunny?? I'm in slight awe of these undressing babies!

Raeside · 29/04/2015 10:00

J loves sitting on his special loo seat thingy on the downstairs loo. I only do it when he asks, only wees so far but am fairly confident he's more into the stickers and the subsequent loo roll use and the very exciting fun of washing hands. Still, at least he kind of gets what it's for. Am totally hoping he magically toilet trains himself.

BeanCalledPickle · 29/04/2015 10:05

If we just don't bother what happens? Will we be sat on the sofa and they ask for the loo and I just say 'Yep upstairs on the left?'

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Raeside · 29/04/2015 10:46

That's be my dream, Bean.

Aren't you excited to maybe get a gold coin if KMidd drops her sprig same day as you? face

Raeside · 29/04/2015 10:47

*sprog.

Bastarding phone autospell is my biggest living enemy.